Post # 1
So I was reading the post on what is the frist song you danced to and I thought I would start thinking about ours. I texted my fiancee (cuz he’s at work) and told him “I’m thinking of you.” He texted back a smiley face with “I love you.” I texted back “luv u 2. Trying to find the perfect “first dance” song for us. I have a couple in mind. Do you have any you would like?” he replied “no I’m happy with what ever you pick luv u” *sigh* I replied back. “i was afraid you’d say that. we will go over some together if that’s ok. I want it to be special and mean something. u know…like it explains us amd our love for eache other.” “Okay” is what he texted back.
He is like this pretty much about everything for the wedding. If I worry about something he just says “everything will be fine” When I ask for his opinion on some wedding details He says “what ever you want”
This is normal…Right? I just wish he was more “into it” I guess.
Post # 3
Definitely find that to be normal. FI says the same things. He just likes to have an idea of what’s going on and doesn’t mind hearing my ideas. 🙂
Post # 4
Normal? right. Most men just don’t care so much about all the details.
Post # 5
My Fiance always says to just tell him where and when to show up and I can do the rest. It really bothered me at first. Still does sometimes because I am doing all the work. On the other hand, his argument is that even if he has an opinion I am probably going to do what I want anyway. He is probably right! Haha.
Post # 6
Yup. I had mine sit down with me as we listened to songs. It was easier that way.
Post # 7
Haha, it certainly was normal for us. Don’t read too much into it. =)
Post # 8
Yep! I had a list of songs for each category and we listened to the together and came to a joint decision on each.
Way easier that way!
Post # 9
@luvmyDwight: It is normal because alot of FI’s think the wedding is more for the bride…. Try not to take it personally
Post # 10
Mr. Tattoo doesn’t care about the details. All he cares about the food and alcohol. I think it’s pretty normal. There are some guys that care about that stuff and want to be a part of it, but there are many more just want to know what time to show up.
Post # 11
Thx bees~ I figured it was the norm. Just needed reasurring.
and to RahlyRah~ your comment
“My Fiance always says to just tell him where and when to show up and I can do the rest. It really bothered me at first. Still does sometimes because I am doing all the work. On the other hand, his argument is that even if he has an opinion I am probably going to do what I want anyway. He is probably right! Haha.”
I swear you are in my head cuz that is excatly what is going on with us also. LOL
Post # 12
normal.. mine says the same thing..
Post # 13
I think it’s normal, but I remember having a discussion on having him show me that he is more excited about the wedding. He picked some tasks that were “his” – like getting his suit (and getting it pressed, etc), finding the officiant, and setting up the music (we did an ipod wedding). I think he liked to be involved. I also tried to include him on decisions – so, while I spent 10 hours looking at invitations, he had to spend a few minutes picking “this one or that one” but it made him feel invovled and it made me feel he cared about what was going on.
So, I guess I would say that if it bugs you, say something about it. Tell him you’d like him to be more involved – that even if it’s not his thing, you’d like some effort on his part. This is something you’d like to do together.
Post # 14
hahah I was hoping I was getting that similar reaction because we still have two years to go…but it seems like it’s just normal throughout the whole process…. I forget that he hasn’t been dreaming of this day since he was 5
Post # 15
Totally normal. I was relieved on this one because Fiance never ever listens to love songs. His idea of a love song is Everlong by Foo Fighters. Yeah, the words “Gotta promise not to stop when I say when” are NOT going to be included in our first dance. But since he made it my decision, it will be Two is Better than One by Boys Like Girls featuring Taylor Swift…favorite band and favorite singer, and it’s the perfect song!
Post # 16
I feel all you bees. I had started to volen-told my Fiance. Its more of “we are picking our song tonight.” He usually comes up with some sort of input once we get into it.