Post # 1
So the last of the cousins (the baby) is getting married this weekend and of course I’ll be in attendance with SO since I’m very happy for them, and so on and so forth……..this particular cousin is 4 years younger than me, no big deal, after her, it’s just me left to get hitched, normally this doesn’t bother me…….UNTIL……. her and her bridesmaids started making fun of me! The jokes started at the bridal shower, with comments such as “do you ever get tired of shopping for brides? or throwing bridal showers” (i have thrown 4 bridal showers for family and two for friends in the last 1.5 years, ugh, i’m a pro now) haha okay laugh it off whatever, then the bacholorette party, they wanted me to wear the sash and tiara since “by the time I get married, no one will be wearing them anymore (first off, i don’t want a damn sash or tiara) THEN, THEN they proceed with “well we’ll just hand you the bouquet during the toss, your the only one left anyway, no need for you to fight over it”! Now everyone gets a good laugh at me being a slow poke when it comes to getting married but WTF? When you are secretly a member of weddingbee and WAITING it becomes less funny and very hard to keep your emotions and mouth shut! Normally I would complain to SO BUT i have my own shut it up pack where i say nothing wedding/marriage related to him. I’m fine waiting in my own little world, but to have the whole fam point it out makes me a little sad…..SO’s response to all of this would be “she knows i love her, i don’t have to put a ring on it until we’re both ready”……….which in turn I would want to start raising my arms and screaming like a little kid “I’m ready, I’m ready!!!!” Now, i’m grumpy and don’t want to go
Post # 3
@MrsFarm0619: So don’t go. When people ask you why say that so-and-so is a huge C*nt and you choose not to participate.
Post # 4
I’d smile, and say politely “I’m so glad you guys can find such humor in my misfortune. I like to live MY life on MY terms, not yours, so if you’d kindly shut your pie hole I’d appreciate it” and walk away. Eff them, they’re being rude. Just becuase they think it’s funny doesn’t make it any less bitchy.
Post # 5
Good luck to her and her husband with that immature attitude. My SIL handed me the bouquet at her wedding, but she wasn’t being mean, she was trying to be nice. Tell them you’re just doing lots of research so that your wedding will be better than all of theirs.
Or, just sit back and watch the trainwrecks. By the time my husband and I married (at 30 and 31 after dating for 6 years), 3 of our friends had been married and divorced already – two with children. It stings now, but you will be happy that you waited until you were more mature and ready.
Hell even my own mother was all “well he hasn’t put a ring on it!” for a few months before we got engaged. No one else has to live your life – just live it, f’em.
Post # 6
Sorry you have to go through their “humour”… but it would be best to put a stop to it before you become a Guestzilla at the wedding when they do just give you the bouquet instead of doing the toss… They may not know how much it hurts you, and your silence etc… just makes them say more hurtful things.
Post # 7
Thx bees, as I would like to say what sapphire dreamer said, i’ll keep calm and carry on……I’ll have to update y’all after the wedding on Friday…………..must remeber not to drink much……then the Guestzilla will come out i’m afraid.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
That’s more than just not funny– that’s down right RUDE!
I’d go for the ceremony, and cut out of the reception early if it were me. They have no right to make you feel bad about your own life choices; better to still be waiting than to rush into marriage before you’re ready and/or with someone you shouldn’t be married to!
Post # 9
Ugh! That would hurt my feelings too. They are being insensitive 🙁 It sucks. Just wait for one of them to have to wait for something they want and then make jokes at their expense! 😉 For now I’d try to hang out with them less.
Post # 10
Wow, how rude! That would really piss me off big time! But like you said, try to be the bigger person and don’t let their jokes get to you. Try to think of some witty comback lines to put them in their place and shut them up and then keep calm and carry on and enjoy your life and where you are at.
Post # 11
wow – who acts like this?! Jesus. People are idiots.
@Sapphire-Dreamer: that comment made me actually laugh out loud. I think I love you.
Post # 12
You go to that damn wedding honey, get all dolled up, buy you some extra fancy walking tall shoes and a matching purse…cuz hey, purses are neat and you strut into that place lookin like a million bucks….you aren’t married, you aren’t engaged…WHO CARES?? What you ARE is fabulous and a piece of jewelry and a sash from Kmart can’t compare to that….and when those crones get to laughing on you and SO’s laid back approach to the whole getting married thing, you just smile at them and say, “Well, if a dinner like this is all I can look forward to, we might wait another 4 years.”
Post # 14
@Nona99: LMAO!!! YES DO THAT!
@lookingglass: <3 you too, lady
Post # 13
@Nona99: Love it!
What a biotch. Seriously, who says that crap? That hurt MY feelings!
Post # 15
@MrsFarm0619: I understand a bit of good natured teasing, but I think they need to give it a rest.
If they care about you, maybe it would work next time they do this to say “Ok, it’s really not funny” and look all upset. If they persist then that’s just mean and I wouldn’t blame you for skipping out on these events.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t go to the wedding, come up with a lame excuse afterwards. At the end of the day if she can’t support you in your relationship (and mocking you isn’t support) then why should you support her wedding?
What they did was cruel and insensitive and I wouldn’t deal with it, it’s not fair on you Baba.
I hope everything turns out ok and just remind yourself that their day has been and gone. Your’s is still on it’s way xx