- 6 years ago
…but I’m so afraid that when I get my engagment ring (which the SO has already bought for me; we picked it out online together), it’s going to be too big for my finger. No, not the whole ring, but the center stone size.
We decided on a 1 carat Amora Moissanite (which I am THRILLED about, BTW), but I’ve been internally freaking out about the size. My finger is a 5.5, and I prefer dainty, small, delicate rings as opposed to bigger ones. In no way am I saying anything negative about bigger center stones; because, let’s face it, they can be drop dead GORGEOUS, but it’s not really my preference. I really wanted a 3/4 carat, or a 1/2 carat center. I know Moissanite is measured differently than diamond, so I’m sure my stone will equal out to around .91 ‘carat’, but I also have a halo around my ring.
I very politely asked SO the other day if, when the ring came in and he proposed, I felt it was a bit big for my taste, if we could try and exchange it for a smaller stone. I don’t want to seem ungrateful, because I definitely AM grateful. I know some people dream of 1 carat, but it’s just not who I am.
I think mostly I agreed to the 1 carat because my BF really wanted me to have that size, or bigger (I definitely refused that!), and my Mom prefers the 1 carat as well.
I was mostly just wondering if it’s crazy to ask to have a smaller center stone if it comes in and I feel like it’s too much? (Who knows? Maybe it’ll come in and I’ll love the size! I’m just trying to be prepared, and see if it’s alright to send it in and get something smaller.) BF has said that’s fine, and he wants me to be happy…but I’m also worried that he’ll be dissapointed if I don’t love the ring the way it is, because for a guy he’s very sentimental, and that’d be the ‘original’ engagment ring. Help?
Edit: the few people I’ve asked about this smirked at me and said, “1 carat really isn’t even big. It’ll be fine!” (Rude, much? Sure, it may be ‘small’ to THEM, but it’s not MY preference!)