- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I’m sorry to (maybe vent) about this, but I’m really quite upset today. Boyfriend and I are struggling to prioritize our summer, and compromise to make time so that we both get to do the things and go the places that are important to us. Its just really really hard to do.
Like most people, Boyfriend and I have a really packed summer. For example, I can tell you exactly what I’m doing for the next 10 Saturdays. I have a conference this weekend. The last two weekends of June are double booked, one with a friend’s wedding/ friend visiting (who doesn’t know the bride and groom so isn’t involved with the wedding) combo, the next with a friend/ Boyfriend’s father visit combo. Then comes the 4th of July, then a cousin’s wedding, then guys fishing trip. I’d like to spend the last week of July at the lake, before we have friends staying with us the first weekend in August. The second weekend of August is free, but the weekend after that I’m in a wedding, and the weekend after that another friend is coming to visit us. Then its August 29, and the weekend after that is Labor Day.
And I’d really like to have an engagement party at the lake over Labor Day weekend, since its geographically a central meeting location for us, my family, and his family. And since he’s determined that we can’t get married at the lake. Then again, I look at that schedule and wonder when in the hell he’s even going to have time to propose?!
I’m so upset, I think mostly because we’re having such a hard time compromising on this. And because I tried to bring this up in March before things got crazy and he didn’t think it was a big enough deal to talk about. We usually communicate really well, but clearly we dropped the ball on making our summer what we wanted it to be, not what other people’s weddings/ visits forced us into.
I sound ungrateful that so many people are taking the time and spending the money to come see us. Really, I don’t mean to. I’m just so overwhelmed about it, and sad that apparently we didn’t communicate well enough to have the summer we wanted to have.
Can anyone give me advice on how to get through this with him? Gosh, I’m seriously close to tears about wether or not I get to spend time at my parents lake place this summer! I feel silly, but really am upset!