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UPDATE: Hospital: Man OK to visit sick husband
So this guy who been in a civil union with his HUSBAND for five years was dragged away from his husbands bedside when the family showed up and wanted him to leave. Despite him telling the nurse he had power of attorney. It’s ridiculous on all levels that they even have to go through filling out extra legal papers to prevent this, and despite that he still got kicked out.
I would cause a major scene if that happened to my Fi too! This is beyond ridiculous. Especially in other cases where the family decided to disown the person then when they are sick show up and get to make all the choices, or worse if property or money is in a partners name claim it for themselves, or if the partner dies cut the spouse out of the funeral services. Marriage protects spouses from that kind of nonsense. It’s disgraceful on every level.
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@TwoCityBride: Agree with everything you said. I hope people feel ashamed of this kind of nonsense.
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@TwoCityBride: That is so wrong on so many levels! Sad!!
Post # 5
I read about that. Some people were saying for the partner to carry his power of attorney documents, which then brings up the argument of “well married hetero couples don’t have to carry their marriage licenses around, so why should LGBTQ have to?”
Which is a valid question, and pisses me off that it’s happening.
Post # 6
@strawbs: So true. The fact is civil unions aren’t marriages and don’t provide the same legal protection. I think it’s well established in this country that separate but equal never works. Despite the Obama giving the mandate that hospitals respect the rights of gay couples it never work.
It ridiculous that gay couples who are fully committed and even those with civil unions have to go to extra lengths to protect their joint assets and have their spouse. It really makes my blood boil.
Post # 7
Agreed! I read that this morning and my heart hurt for them.
Post # 8
Ugh, this is awful. Such BS. I love how this article (and the hospital) makes it sound like it was all his fault- he caused the “disturbance” so he had to go! Ignores the real issue completely, that he never should have been asked to leave in the first place! Disgusting.
Post # 9
This makes my heart ache. It’s so sad that people are refused rights based on other people’s opinions.
Post # 10
Exclusive interview with daughter of gay man handcuffed, dragged from husband’s hospital bed
An update for those of you are interested. Interestingly enough the brother who was the family member who wanted the spouse to leave, was asked to leave too because the patient didn’t want him in his room!
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It’s so revolting that the world is still this way.
We are the ones who have to change it!
I’m at least glad this is getting media time, people need to be outraged.
Post # 13
This is insane!
I don’t understand though… what is a civil union? It can’t be like a civil partnership, because they automatically confer next of kin priviliges. It sounds like some sort of halfway house between civil partnership and… nothing…
Post # 14
Ugh, this makes me so sad that there are such disparities in our society.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Boulevard Brewery
@Rachel631: There-in lies the status of same-sex relationships in the US (somewhere betwixt and between nothing and legal recognition) and why there are 2 related court cases sitting with the US Supreme Court… Even if you are legally married in one state (so long as you are gay), if you travel to a state that does not recognize your relationship (or g-d forbid move to a state that does not recognize) then you are at risk for experiencing significant loss of access to ones rights. Even if you are legally married in one place, even if you have a child with both parents names on the birth certificate it is still recommended that you have additional legal protections like going through second parent adoption, getting medical and durable powers of attorney…
As someone who got married in Kansas City (to her wife) and had a wonderful experience it breaks my heart that people in that community are at risk for this kind of treatment.
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@Mrs. Scone: So what is the solution? As you have constitutional law then how do you amend this?