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I can't believe I am even writing this. I sent a few photos of myself in my wedding dress to my parents, who live across the country. Their response "you look like you are showing". Showing = being pregnant. I am NOT pregnant. I am very sensitive about the fact that I tend put on weight around my middle (while most women gain in the hips and thighs). I think it is just the shadows from the ceiling lights making the little "paunch" look worse, but it hurt to have my parents make a comment like that, especially when I am only a month and a half'ish away from my wedding. In the photo, I was not wearing shapewear.

I work out. I eat healthy. I'm a healty size 6/8. That said, I have my vices with my own body. Everyone wants something to be different. But I just can't believe my own parents, the ones who are supposed to gush about how nice you look. said I look pregnant.

Maybe I am just a little emotional right now. My mother said I was being "overdramatic" when I got upset. Then she had the gall to say "well, you got your shapewear yesterday, so you should be fine". Thanks Mom. Really.

Just needed some reassurance that I won't look gross on my wedding day, becuase right now all I can do is look at those pictures and cry...

You are not fat and you will look gorgeous in your dress!!!  You already have a healthy lifestyle so just keep on doing what you are doing.  I am sorry that your parents are saying things like that to you.

Here is a photo - I am not secretly fishing for complements here, just posting becuase people asked. You can see what I mean about the lights though.

Ugh, didn't work, hold on:

Oh I'm so sorry.  I don't understand why parents (and especially mothers) can be so insensitive.  It's like they think they can say whatever they want and it doesn't matter because you are family and will love them.  Um, no.  That's not how it works.  Your description of yourself and your lifestyle sounds like you take good care of yourself and I'm sure you look fantastic! 

Thanks for all the responses so fast! I guess you know, you sometimes have second thoughts about your dress, and when my parents made that comment, it just brought all those stupid "pre-wedding fears" to the front. Not even necessarily about the "paunch" but about my wedding in general. I just want to marry Mr. Valhalla surrounded by loving friends and family. Everything else (decorations, food, etc...) is jsut secondary.

You posted the photo while I was commenting before.....lady you look fantastic in that dress and I love the dress so much!  And to be honest, you look even smaller than a 6/8, which I think is a small size to begin with! 

Oh honey, that dress is lovely and so are you!  You look teeny tiny and i can tell you're not pregnant!  As soon as you stand up straight, any "tummy pooch" (in quotes because there is hardly anything!) will disappear.  Also, it looks like the pictures were taken by someone sitting down.  Taking pictures from a lower point than where you are is never flattering for anyone.  Take a look at a lot of professional shots, the shot is often taken at a level dead on or slightly higher than the subject matter because that's more flattering.  I'm sorry your parents said that, they obviously weren't thinking.  

You do look tiny!  Don't sweat it!  I think that maybe that were seeing you hunched over a bit and thought you were sticking out your hips.  Next time, just stand up straught!  Shoulder blades out, chest out, hips flat!