- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I have a strained relationship with my dad, and an Ok relationship with my mom.
I also have a half-sister (from my dad). She lives with her mother, and I am pretty close to my sister’s mom. My sister is 10 years younger than me (17), and while we talk, we’re not overly close.
Last week, my dad called me. We talked for about 20 minutes about his puppy, work, his awful financial issues, etc. Then 20 minutes in, he says, “hey, did you hear what “Gwen” (my sister) did?”
So, of course, I was expecting him to tell me she was getting into trouble, sneaking out or something (she can be pretty rebellious).
…then he says, “she took a bunch of pills and ended up in the hospital.”
So I’m freaking out at this point, and he goes on to tell me that it happened 2 weeks ago….and that he was surprised I didn’t know, because everyone he had talked to did.
NOBODY bothered letting me know that my little sister tried to kill herself, and then my dad just brings it up in casual conversation like it’s no big deal.
My head was and still is spinning. I just feel so freaking awful that my sister felt like she needed to do something like that…that I couldn’t be there for her to talk to her.
I feel like I’ve let her down, just like everyone else in my family. I don’t want her to feel like I don’t care…but I can imagine that must be how she feels seeing that I didn’t even call her to see if she was ok.
I did talk to her mother and express my concern and how bad I felt that I wasn’t there.
I did have her and her mom over to my place over the weekend, but I feel so mad that no one bothered to tell me..or that I couldn’t have been there for her.