Post # 1
So, I read a lot about why you shouldn’t nag/be bossy, but honestly…my hubby needs it! And, he usually can recognize that he needs the help.
Example: DH’s friends are in from out-of-state, so we are having a BBQ for them, tonight. The party was 45 mins. out, and…
me — when r u getting the food
him — in 45 mins
me — so, you are picking up the food at the same time as your friends are arriving?
him — yes (no realization in voice…)
Good thing bossy me thought to ask! I mean, I know his friends, too, but doesn’t that seem weird? This is typical for him, though.
What clueless things does your FI/DH do that “make you” nag?
Post # 3
That. He does exactly what you just described. Makes. Me. CRAZY!!!
Also, your “this is why I’m bossy” title reminded me of that MIMS rap song, “This is Why I’m Hot.” hee hee hee.
Post # 4
This is my tyical situation:
Dinner resrvations for 6 at 8:30
7:30- Me: Are you going to get ready?
8:00- Me: Are you ready? (thinking he’s only changing his clothes)
8:15- Me: **Drinking a glass of wine and pacing back and forth**
Him: Ironing, SHAVING, gel in hair etc… AT 8:15!!!!!!!!!
8:30- WE’RE LATE!
Post # 5
Guys just don’t think things through and plan like we do. My most typical situation:
9pm friday night
me: you planning to study tonight?
him: i’m tired
me: ok. when are you going to study?
me: umm… we’re supposed to work out, then you’ve got to work. when are you going to study?
him: after work
me: aren’t we supposed to have a date?
him: oh are we still doing that? i mean we’re hanging out now arent we?
me: mtv, pjs and couch DOES NOT count as a date!
Post # 6
Sigh. I feel for you all. Been there, done that. This thread is making me grateful that you’re all describing my ex-husband, and not my future husband.
Post # 7
My FI is slow like a woman. He’ll bug me about starting to get ready to go somewhere, but when I’m ready (on time, I should add), then he suddenly has a bunch of things that need done. Like, it’ll be time to walk out the door and he decides that the dogs need to go out and he can’t find his hat.
Post # 8
Hahaha, My FI takes forever to get ready:
FI: Let’s go, ready?
Me: Ok, (grabs purse and keys) Ready!
Me: Stands by door.
FI: Walks room to room finding keys, wallet, sunglasses, etc. etc. for 10 min.
Me: Let’s GO!
FI: Ok, ok. (walks out door with me)
We get to the car.
FI: One minute hon, I forgot _______.
Post # 9
hahahah… Im not as creative to post an exact dialogue..
But I can relate to all of the “when r you going to get ready”
he takes his sweet time! Youd think its usually the girl that takes forever.. I can put on a full face of makeup, straighten my hair, double check my makeup, change a couple times and STILL have to wait for him to get dressed, or finish putting his shoes on, or for him to clip a nail.. why does the nail need to be clipped cant it wait until after our plans?!!
Post # 10
@JustLikeHeaven THE NAIL CLIPPING. I hate that. Really? Right now? Really?
Post # 11
hahaha I feel SO bad reading this post – 99% of time it’s ME who makes us late, or takes forever to get raedy, or can’t find my _____ (pick one: keys, wallet, lipstick, camera, cellphone, etc.)… So I guess sometimes I’m the one who makes HIM have to be bossy 😛
Post # 12
haha, your boys remind me of my husband! He’s CONSTANTLY pulling this kind of BS with me. Our conversations will go something like this:
Earlier in the day:
Me: Okay, the movie’s at 7:30
Me: Okay, I’m getting ready to go!
Me: Okay, are you ready to go?
Him: You didn’t tell me to get ready.
Me: But the movie’s at 7:30 and I told you I was getting ready, we have to go now.
Him: I thought we were LEAVING at 7:30
Me: I said the MOVIE was at 7:30, and why would I be telling you an hour early that I’m getting ready if we weren’t leaving until 7:30?
Him: I don’t know, it takes you forever to get ready?
Me: It took me five minutes – I just told you early so you’d have plenty of time to get ready!
Me: Seriously, if we don’t leave now, we’re going to be really late!
Him: Okay, already, I’m ready! (and then he proceeds to go to the bathroom, brush his teeth, and find his shoes and isn’t ready until 7:30)
Post # 13
LOL.. I totally hear you. My FI can’t be trusted with meeting with any of the vendors because he always gets suckered into upgrades. After he upgraded our photography and DJ package, I decided to take control. At one point he was ready to drop $7000 for videography. So I had to put my foot down and speak sternly to him about how I”m the one managing the budget and that all wedding decisions have to go through me, lol.
Post # 14
To the bees who have partners who are constantly late: If the reservation is at 8:30pm, tell them the reservation is at 8pm. Literally walk out the door by 7pm. If they lollygag for 30 more minutes, it’ll still give you an extra hour to make the reservation. You’re still on time! Thankfully, my fiancé is punctual like I am….it’s my mom/sister/some relatives that I have to do that to. For the wedding, I’m telling my relatives who are constantly late that the ceremony is 1 hour before the actual time. I am betting some of them will still come in late. (Yes, I have an aunt who actually STARTS to get ready at 8pm when you tell her the party starts at 8pm. It drives me crazy!!!)
Post # 15
@kingcake- omg my guy does that alllll the time! haha. I’m upstairs getting ready and he’s sitting on the couch going “you ready? you ready?” And I”ll say “Ok I’ll be ready to leave in TWO minutes” and then I come down the stairs 100% ready 2 min later and he’s still sitting there. And then I have to stand there and wait while he puts on his shoes, gets his coat, finds his wallet, watch, keys, cell, and ipod. And I’m always like… I TOLD you I was going to be ready in 2 minutes why didn’t you do that then? “I didn’t believe you” lol. Even though it happens all. the. time. 🙂