Post # 1
Hi all, I’ve been lurking since our engagement a year ago but this is my first time posting.
I’ve tried to not overshare my wedding details with too many people, just a few close GFs and sisters & cousins. But, I had my second last dress fitting on the weekend just before catching up with some of school friends, and decided to show them the pics.
AND, one of them said THIS: the pleats really emphasise your tummy. OUCH.
Ironically, I designed the dress with the pleats to try and HIDE my tummy as I’ve always been super self-concious about it. I’m now obsessed about her comment and wondering if I designed the worst dress for my body shape 🙁
Can you please help and vote?
Tho. not sure what I can do about it as it’s the last fitting this coming weekend, I don’t think I can change the design this late in the game.
The dress inspiration was this (obviously I don’t have her model body)
Post # 3
@HerRoyalLeak: You rock that dress! Your friend is just having a massive brain fart. For some reason weddings bring out the inconsiderate clod in otherwise kind and supporttive people.
Post # 4
You look amazing in your dress…And I truly like both of the dresses (yours and the inspiration dress)..What is the brand of your inspiration gown?
Post # 5
The pleats work! And where is your tummy?! I can’t see it 🙂 Honestly.
Post # 6
@SashaUSARu: It’s a Temperley London ‘Laelia’ Wedding Dress.
Bees, thank you for your kind words. Hopefully I can somehow erase her comment from my head and go back to enjoying my dress :/
Post # 7
Honestly, I think that you look lovely and I love your dress! The sleeves are so pretty and I cannot see your stomach at all! It is beautiful 🙂
Post # 8
people can say some really STUPID things… I am sure she didnt mean any harm, but tune her out…. you look beautiful in that dress and I see no belly.
Post # 9
@HerRoyalLeak: You look beautiful and I doubt she meant any harm by it. Try not to let it bother you and enjoy your beautiful dress.
Post # 10
It looks awesome — even after you said it, I still don’t see where she thinks it makes you look like you have a belly! Seriously – just ignore her and continue to rock your dress!
Post # 11
Looks great to me, and to be honest, you look every bit as good as the model does.
Post # 12
Yes it does draw the eye a bit BUT, your stomach looks flat on that image no signs of a belly as PPs have said, some people just talk without thinking and sometimes when a little envy is involved their comments seem to only be negative ones. You look great, you look slim and actually pleats like that can cover an existing tummy as its volume seems to be the pleats and not a tummy underneath (not saying you have a belly, just in general).
Even if you did have a belly and YOU liked the dress that would be totally respectable at the end of the day you are marrying the person you love in a dress that you love and he will love, as long as you feel beautiful, that is the only thing that matters.
Post # 13
@HerRoyalLeak: That dress is absolutely gorgeous on you.
Post # 14
@HerRoyalLeak: WHAT tummy? You look beautiful. And perfectly slim.
Your “friend” that made the comment is a tactless and possibly mean spirited bitch.
Post # 15
You look absolutely lovely, and I see nothing at all unflattering about the design on your figure.
It is difficult to understand the motivation behind such a comment. I’m not sure if you are quoting her verbatim, but from what you are saying, it does seem at best insensitive, and at worst intentionally hurtful. You said that you have not been sharing your wedding plans – could she be feeling resentful that you didn’t include her in your initial dress selection process? It almost seems a little “passive-aggressive” on her part.
My personal opinion is that if you are in a bridal party, your constructive criticism might be welcome at the very beginning of a bride’s search for a dress. But saying anything negative about a bride’s gown when she has already made her decision and is happy with it, is not something a friend would do. Perhaps I am reading too much into this, but I suspect this might not actually have anything to do with your dress, but rather her own attention-seeking issues and/or unhappiness. Possibly even jealousy. Or perhaps she is just not very bright :p
Post # 16
You looke AMAZING, you know sometimes claws come out when your doing good… its sad but some girls revert to highschool … like you remember when you get ready and there be that one girl who told you to wear the bad outfit b.c. she didnt want you to look better then her…. i am guessing that girl is single, or dating but not where she wants to be or with the wrong guy or she married and bitter her wedding is over
you look wonderful don’t let bad vibes leek into your mind and ruin your happy enjoy it