Post # 1
So I’m in the car this morning listening to my local station and I hear the word "wedding", which perks my interest and I turn it up a bit. What I heard was UNREAL!
I guess I UK magazine did a poll called "Me and My Wedding" consisting of a hundred questions or so for real brides – on one of these questions 20% of brides admitted to making their BM’s sign a contract. Now that alone was crazy but it was a contract stating (no s*#t!) they wouldn’t gain any weight before the wedding!
So off that sprung phone calls from people in the area (I’m in MN BTW) with similar stories anf e-mails coming in, I guess that asking them to agree not to gain weight is the top of the Bridesmaid or Best Man contract world – some of these have gone so far as to include ‘I will not intentioanlly get pregnant’ * ‘I will not change my hair do before the wedding’ *
I almost drove off the road, and then flipped because I couldn’t wait to post this and my WB Addict kicked in and I began driving like I was in a tank to get to where I was going so I could get back home and post this mess!
Now don’t get me wrong – this contract thing would be great for all of us who’ve had "blips" in your party – HOWEVER it’s in not way nice, or polite or even socially acceptable – who the hell came up with it???
I’m marrying into a VERY english family, and this knocked my Future Mother-In-Law on the floor!
Post # 3
So I’m pretty confused about this, because it never even came close to crossing my mind that I would have the women standing by me on my day sing a contract dictating what they can ans cant do. I’m very honored that they would take the time and money (all of them are scattered across the US) to help me out
But I did find an article about it here: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2008/02/04/nbmaid104.xml
and if you are in need of a contract you can download one from the magazine that did the survey here: http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/index.php/v1/Bridesmaid_contract so
I think it’s pretty disrespectful and a little bride-zillaish to do this, because to me a lot of the stuff on this contract is extremely superficial. If you can’t trust the people you are asking to stand by you to have a little tact, you probably shouldn’t be asking them then right?
I also thought it was interesting that under the picture in the article the caption said that it was the latest trend in america…
Post # 4
It’s WAY Bride-zilla! Seriously, almost drove off the road when I heard it…crazy stuff….
ANd I should claryify in my first post that I didn’t mean I’d actually do it but becaue you know I’ve had more issues with BM’s then most if it were ok to do it, it would make life easy….but I’d never do it – even with all the problems I’ve had! It shoulnd’t even ever been an option….how rude. I’m honored to have these gals standing next to me – regardless of how much stress they cost me.
Post # 5
Actually I had a friend that verbally threatened her bridesmaid with this!
She told them not to steal her thunder by being preggers or getting engaged before he big day! She tried to play it off by saying she was kidding…but we all knew she was serious!
The funny thing..one of her bridesmaids WAS a few weeks preggers at her wedding! HA!
I don’t get this at all….it’s very bridezilla…and very self centered….but some girls get caught up in, "my big day" and take it a bit too far.
Post # 6
Is there generally a clause preventing boob jobs too? Haha.