This just isn't our year. Advice? Reassurance?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@figgnewton:  I would seriously talk to your dad about this.  I doubt he would want to put his daughter and new infant grandchild in that position.  Hopefully business picks up and this won’t even be an issue for you.  Best of luck!

Post # 4
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, I would look at it this way – you got a head’s up that things may not work out, which allows you time to try to find something else, if you can! 🙂

Post # 5
2665 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would talk to your dad. Pronto. See if he can do anything for you. You are in a unique position, yes your dad sees you as an employee but most dads wouldn’t cut off their kid at the knees esp. When there is a baby on the way. if things go south he might be able to cut someone elce instead of you or at least give you a pay cut where you still will be earning enough to survive.  Talk with dad. Nepotisim is a good thing when it works in your favor

Post # 6
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@imalittlebirdie:  +1

@figgnewton:  It’s every man for himself with these kinds of things, and I’d be begging my dad to keep me on or use one of his connections to get me on somewhere else.

Post # 7
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@figgnewton:  what about using the slow time the business has to find new leads? or your husband getting a second job?

Post # 10
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Look, I don’t have any advice, but I know what its like to feel as if your in the middle of a yellow shit storm with no end in sight…its easy to get in a down and out way of thinking, to feel defeated or helpless and especially to turn on the people closest to you because its all you can do sometimes.

But you’re going to be just fine, and you’ve got to hang onto each other and believe in one another…you CAN do this, so stop listing all the things in your way and start paying attention to what you’ve got in your favor.

There’s always a way

Post # 11
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@figgnewton:  ugh, I’m sorry. that sucks. Do you have a skill you can sell? Like babysitting or dog walking? Since you have experience in an office, have you looked through a temp agency yet?

Post # 12
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Is there any way you can get more actively involved in the sales at your dad’s company? Perhaps get everyone involved in the sales process? When I was facing a similar situation with my employees, I explained to them exactly how we needed to go about getting new revenue and what would happen if we didn’t. It worked out pretty well.

Post # 13
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@figgnewton:  I am so sorry to hear that you’re going through so much at once. I can definitely sympathize with you. I had a whole lot of difficult things happen to me within the last 6 months. Details aside, DH is currently jobless, and I had to leave my full time job for health reasons. Just yesterday I was saying to myself, “Thank GOD I’m not pregnant!”, so I can only imagine how much is on your mind. Fingers crossed/good vibes for you!

I second the idea that you should have a heart-to-heart with your dad. Maybe there’s a role that you could fill at the business temporarily. 

Other than that, another Bee suggested this website to me when I posted about all the crap going on in my life: If you have stuff you can sell, that might be the way to go for now!

I really hope things get better for you soon. Nurture your partnership with your DH because you’ll need each other’s support during this time. Keep an open mind so that you can spot a possible solution that might present itself in an unexpected place. And best of luck!

Post # 14
3077 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Can you start looking NOW just in case?

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