Post # 1
So I have lived out on my own since 18. I have had steady jobs the past 3 years. I took a job with my dads company as a job costing accountant and it was REALLY good pay. This job has helped us conquer some of our most difficult financial times.
I talked to my dad last weekend and said that we weren’t getting enough jobs to keep busy. I was told that the end of July, if we aren’t busy, then he will be making some cuts. Meaning me and some of the new people. (I knew this going in that even though I am family I am an employee at work first)
Que Panic MODE! I am due October. We just got over DH being unemployed and finally started to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Then WAMO I totaled my car. Now we have a car payment, my other car was paid off, and extra gas we have to pay for this car.
We can’t afford the car, rent, utilities, bills, and food on just DH’s income and even if I were on unemployement we still couldn’t survive. I would look for another job but no company wants a 7 month pregnant lady about to give birth.
I honestly am just praying that we pick up some more jobs or else we will be homeless. No I’m not exaggerating.
What do we do? Am I thinking too hard and far away?
DH and I have been fighting constantly the past couple days because all I have on my mind is where are we going to lay our heads next month? I am so stressed that I get angry and mean. I’m at a loss.
Post # 3
@figgnewton: I would seriously talk to your dad about this. I doubt he would want to put his daughter and new infant grandchild in that position. Hopefully business picks up and this won’t even be an issue for you. Best of luck!
Post # 4
Well, I would look at it this way – you got a head’s up that things may not work out, which allows you time to try to find something else, if you can! 🙂
Post # 5
I would talk to your dad. Pronto. See if he can do anything for you. You are in a unique position, yes your dad sees you as an employee but most dads wouldn’t cut off their kid at the knees esp. When there is a baby on the way. if things go south he might be able to cut someone elce instead of you or at least give you a pay cut where you still will be earning enough to survive. Talk with dad. Nepotisim is a good thing when it works in your favor
Post # 6
@figgnewton: It’s every man for himself with these kinds of things, and I’d be begging my dad to keep me on or use one of his connections to get me on somewhere else.
Post # 7
@figgnewton: what about using the slow time the business has to find new leads? or your husband getting a second job?
Post # 8
@StephieBee: No company will look at me if I’m about to give birth.):
@imalittlebirdie: I have and he is doing everything in his power to try to stay busy. I don’t know if he is rolling it around in his brain to train me to be manager of the office or not. I mentioned that the office manager will leave in the next couple years probably (special circumstances) and he will need someone. He asked me if I wanted to go back to school or stay in this type of work for the rest of my life because I can’t have both. I told him I would stay to be his manager if it came down to it. I’m good at what I do and I like working for family. Not because I get treated any special way but because I know the integrity of the people I’m working for. He kept hinting that he was thinking about it but didn’t come out and actually say it. I know he doesn’t want to put me in this kind of situation but I told him not to feel guilty if he has to. I’m just praying that we will get some jobs soon.
Post # 9
@seabunny: DH works two jobs already. With our company we have to bid jobs and I haven’t learned that yet.
Post # 10
Look, I don’t have any advice, but I know what its like to feel as if your in the middle of a yellow shit storm with no end in sight…its easy to get in a down and out way of thinking, to feel defeated or helpless and especially to turn on the people closest to you because its all you can do sometimes.
But you’re going to be just fine, and you’ve got to hang onto each other and believe in one another…you CAN do this, so stop listing all the things in your way and start paying attention to what you’ve got in your favor.
There’s always a way
Post # 11
@figgnewton: ugh, I’m sorry. that sucks. Do you have a skill you can sell? Like babysitting or dog walking? Since you have experience in an office, have you looked through a temp agency yet?
Post # 12
Is there any way you can get more actively involved in the sales at your dad’s company? Perhaps get everyone involved in the sales process? When I was facing a similar situation with my employees, I explained to them exactly how we needed to go about getting new revenue and what would happen if we didn’t. It worked out pretty well.
Post # 13
@figgnewton: I am so sorry to hear that you’re going through so much at once. I can definitely sympathize with you. I had a whole lot of difficult things happen to me within the last 6 months. Details aside, DH is currently jobless, and I had to leave my full time job for health reasons. Just yesterday I was saying to myself, “Thank GOD I’m not pregnant!”, so I can only imagine how much is on your mind. Fingers crossed/good vibes for you!
I second the idea that you should have a heart-to-heart with your dad. Maybe there’s a role that you could fill at the business temporarily.
Other than that, another Bee suggested this website to me when I posted about all the crap going on in my life: manvsdebt.com. If you have stuff you can sell, that might be the way to go for now!
I really hope things get better for you soon. Nurture your partnership with your DH because you’ll need each other’s support during this time. Keep an open mind so that you can spot a possible solution that might present itself in an unexpected place. And best of luck!
Post # 14
Can you start looking NOW just in case?