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Wow. I just received a random postcard from the new guy at my old job "RSVP"ing to our wedding - which he wasn't invited to!

This guy is a total weirdo. I literally trained him for two days before leaving for my new job. (and I can tell you he's not a fast learner!) It is hard to find housing in the small town where the job is, so he actually ended up renting my old apartment. I've only had a few conversations with him as well as some e-mails he sent asking "how to get in good with the boss" and mail he has forwarded.

How do I get rid of him? I don't want an enemy because we do work in the same field and will probably run into each other again, but we didn't invite him for a reason! Have you guys ever heard of someone inviting themselves to a wedding like that? WHAT??

What if I sent him a return postcard saying "Cute, but it doesn't work that way." Would that do the trick? Ahhh!!!

That's totally nuts. I would do an email, and avoid and AKWARD phone call. Just say "I recieved your postcard. We're sorry for any confusion but unfortunately we are having a very small, invitation only wedding. We just can't accomodate anyone else, but we'd love to celebrate with you some other time." Then, obviously, just blow off the "private celebration."

Gosh, and I was worried about a friend's odd boyfriend that's she'll probably +1. This takes the cake!

Can you call or email him expalining that you're keeping your wedding small, family only?

@Katiebug - His exact words were "With this abstract DCC art gallery postcard, I RSVP to your wedding."

I kid you not. Wow. I was afraid it would be a little awkward not to invite him because I invited so many of my former coworkers, and I know they must talk about the wedding at work. That's why he knows where/when it is, etc. I need to talk to them now and find out if they knew he was doing this or what they think. Personally, I think he's a crazy weirdo, and I really really don't want him at the wedding now!

Yes, you should find out what's going on at work with your previous coworkers. Ask them if he really thinks he's invited. This is just WEIRD to the next level.

This is by far the best plus one story I've ever heard.

My recommendation would be to give him a call, or write him an email apologizing, but you have no room, and it's strictly for close friends and family. What a weirdo.

Hmm...maybe he has Aspergers Syndrome or something (very high functioning autism)? I work with some Aspies and I could see that. If it was a joke or serious, it still shows a complete lack of social inappropriateness. 

I think for someone who doesn't 'get' social cues, to this degree, you are going to have to be blunt! Kind, but blunt. 

The update: Thanks for your concern, ladies! I really don't think he's a stalker-type or cause for concern. He's just kind of a clueless, exceptionally clingy weirdo! That I don't really know. So I've carefully crafted this reply e-mail and am running it by my fiancé for approval. What do you think? We're going for firm but friendly.

XXX,

We received your postcard RSVP in the mail the other day, and I've been meaning to respond. I really did not intend to hurt your feelings in any way by not inviting you to the wedding, but the truth is I don't know you that well.

We did invite a lot of the ladies from work, but that's because they are close friends who I've developed a relationship with over two years of working with them every day.

Honestly, there were a lot of wonderful people in XXXXX that I wish we could have included. If we had unlimited space and an infinite budget, it would surely be a bigger wedding! Unfortunately, we don't. :(

I hope you don't feel badly about it, and I really do look forward to hearing you perform when you make it up to open mic in XXXX. Your CD is excellent. You really are a very talented musician. Hope this doesn't make hard feelings and we see you soon!