Post # 1
Wow. I just received a random postcard from the new guy at my old job “RSVP”ing to our wedding – which he wasn’t invited to!
This guy is a total weirdo. I literally trained him for two days before leaving for my new job. (and I can tell you he’s not a fast learner!) It is hard to find housing in the small town where the job is, so he actually ended up renting my old apartment. I’ve only had a few conversations with him as well as some e-mails he sent asking “how to get in good with the boss” and mail he has forwarded.
How do I get rid of him? I don’t want an enemy because we do work in the same field and will probably run into each other again, but we didn’t invite him for a reason! Have you guys ever heard of someone inviting themselves to a wedding like that? WHAT??
What if I sent him a return postcard saying “Cute, but it doesn’t work that way.” Would that do the trick? Ahhh!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
No idea what you should do, but I wanted to say… AAAACK! for you. So weird!!!
Post # 4
omg – do you think hes trying to be funny? thats just crazy
Post # 5
Oh man. I had a guy from High School message me on facebook asking if I wanted him to come to my wedding. Weird.
I think a witty response like that could work depending on the kind of guy he is. Or, more bluntly, “i’m sorry it’s a small wedding. Thanks for your interest” or something to that effect. I unno, I think telling him it doesn’t work like that is pretty obvious =]
This guy has some gall man!
Post # 6
lol that is the best +1 story.
This guy is insane… are you inviting other people from work? Obviously he just wants to be included. Hmm has he met your FI? I have no idea how I would approach this! I’m racking my brain & I can’t come up with anything that is the slightest bit helpful! I’m sorry…
Post # 7
That’s SO random.
While I like your postcard idea, I don’t think you should do that – because I don’t think he’d get the message.
I’d actually call him and tell him you received his postcard about the wedding. Then tell him that you are sorry if he thought he was invited to the wedding, but you are having a private wedding with only close friends and family.
Be as straightforward and direct as possible. And, don’t worry about sounding ‘mean’. Just try to be gracious and kind in your delivery – and all should be fine with any future interaction you may have to have with him.
Post # 8
I can’t fathom this. “Hi, I didn’t get an invite, but I’m coming to your wedding anyway. I’ll take the beef”.
Post # 9
That’s totally nuts. I would do an email, and avoid and AKWARD phone call. Just say “I recieved your postcard. We’re sorry for any confusion but unfortunately we are having a very small, invitation only wedding. We just can’t accomodate anyone else, but we’d love to celebrate with you some other time.” Then, obviously, just blow off the “private celebration.”
Post # 10
Wow. This is just really weird. It seems like he’s a stalker.
Post # 11
OMG…who does that!?! How did that guy even get your addy…crazy! I’d mail him back and say sorry INVITES ONLY!!!
Post # 12
I think a straight up phone call would do the trick!
Post # 13
I think I would have my fiance make that call haha
Post # 14
Oh, that is so strange – does he even know when and where it is? Did he ask on his postcard? This is taking “am I invited” to a whole new level.
Post # 15
I agree straight forward phone call that the FI makes that will get the point across!
Post # 16
Gosh, and I was worried about a friend’s odd boyfriend that’s she’ll probably +1. This takes the cake!
Can you call or email him expalining that you’re keeping your wedding small, family only?