Post # 1
But it’s not. Last night my fiance and I decided to call it quits for a while after we just found out we are expecting a little over a month ago. It hurts but I think it’s what is best for now? We have been together well over a year and a half now and I think that we have probably had more bad days than good. My stress level between dealing with him and our fighting then dealing with his kid’s grades and bad behavior in school is like a 12 out of 10. He has the most terrible anger issues that I have ever seen in anyone and I have a scitzo(SP?) brother so that should tell you something. He was really rude to someone in the store last night because the bathrooms in the back of the store were closed and his son had to pee bad. I told him it wouldn’t hurt him to walk to the front of the store to go it’s not that far and he got snippy with me and said yeah well we’ll see when he pees all over himself. HELLO he is 7 years old he should be able to hold it somewhat. But he didn’t even bother saying he had to go “really, really” bad until he saw a bathroom then started doing the potty dance. No, I’m not trying to be hostile towards the kid so please don’t take it that way it just made no since to me how he was running all over the store and having a grand ole time until he saw a bathroom. So anyways back to the point he got mad because I told him he was acting like a prick to the associate at the store and that it wasn’t his fault they close the BR at a certain time and the rest of the night went downhill from there. We got home and got to fight and him throw his little hissy whiney bitch fest like his panties are in a wad. He then asks me if it’s my hormones causing me to act this way and I said no I’m just sick of your short cord before you have to get snippy with someone including me. I hate how he makes fun of me when I complain about nausea or I am just exhausted after working 16 hour shifts as a CNA. He says “You are just having a terrible pregnancy aren’t you?” He says he isn’t making fun of me but by the way he says it in my eyes he is. I am just exhausted with his not caring attitude. He comes home from work, eats dinner if it’s on the table, gets up and gets on the computer for like 4-5 hours or works on his dumb truck all night which there is nothing wrong with then comes in and complains about being sooo tired and goes to bed. HELLO DOUCHE you have a FAMILY spend a little bit of time with us!
What do you ladies think? Am I being a little hormonal/dramatic of do you think I have a good reason to be pissed? I mean I work a full time job and do ALL of the housework and take the kids to Scout meetings and T-Ball practice and everything else. Well anywho I am going to do some more packing to leave the state so please leave your honest comments below.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that you’re going through all of this! But I think you’re doing the right thing in leaving. He has serious anger issues that he needs to work through. I would hate to think of him treating you that way when you have the child or the child seeing that growing up. You’re pregnant and you really need him to be there for you. I can’t believe he lets you work and then doesn’t do any chores- you’re pregnant!
Do you have family that you can go to? You said that you’re leaving the state?
Post # 4
when you get married, issues do not get better. they get worse.
if you can’t handle his anger now (which i wouldn’t be able to either), you definitely wouldn’t be able to handle it in the future. unfortunately, you can’t get him to change. you are doing the right thing by leaving.
i know it seems hard, but you will get through it and things will work out. you will learn invaluable lessons from this time in your life.
know that us bees are always here for you!
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Post # 6
@PinkMagnolia: My dad lives in SD which is where I am headed sometime this weekend. I really didn’t want to have my first child and raise him/her by myself but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. I already have a guranteed job up there working in an office so atleast it’s easier than a CNA job and housing up there is really cheap so maybe I can save up what I already have plus I should be getting another check soon and I can get my own place up there.
@MissDareDevil: Thank you, you bees are more dependable than family is sometimes.