Post # 1
The FI is financing most of our wedding. While I’m contributing whenever I can. I’m mostly DIYing everything for the wedding; and, I’ve been very conscientious about what we spend money on and how we do it. I’m the one creating the lists and spreadsheets; meeting with vendors and negotiating when I can. I feel really bad that he is paying for it and stressing about it. I’m pretty sure that when I asked him how he felt about the wedding, he said that I should do what I want so that I won’t regret anything. I know deep down he still wants to elope but I have asked him many times if he wants to downsize or elope. Yes, we’ll lose some deposits but that is much less than the amount we’d spend on the wedding.
And, I really believe that his parents would appreciate and enjoy this wedding. They’ve been so excited since we announced our engagement.
Post # 3
Blah, I hear ya! We’re sharing the cost of our wedding with both our sets of parents, but I feel the same way — guilty for spending every penny. I can’t wait until the wedding over so we can just be married! We’re both just a few months away!
Post # 4
@likelimeade: I also think that we wouldn’t be so fixated on the costs if we had time to save. We decided 2 weeks after our engagement (in March) we wanted a Sept. wedding. *face palm* // It just takes away some of the excitment of the wedding with all this stress! // Good luck!
Post # 5
@mnp: Money is truly one of the most difficult issues around wedding planning. I’m sure your FI is very appreciative of your efforts to be frugal but it’s only natural to get stressed out about it. I don’t know why everything wedding-related has to be so darn expensive!
But the most important thing is you’re marrying the love of your life and your best friend. And one day you’ll look back and won’t regret one penny of the money you spent on the most lovely day of your lives.
((Hugs)) It’ll be ok!
Post # 6
FI and I have been having arguements about money as well so I understand how you feel. Maybe you should take a day or two and forget about wedding stuff and do something the two of y’all like to do together. FI and I have been having some arguements about wedding things and I have tried my best as well to be as cost savy as possible. Our wedding is all DIY except for a few things here and there. You’re more than halfway there so just keep focus that this will be all over soon!