Post # 1
BEWARE: Rant ahead
So take Fiance to the venue to have a meeting with the coordinator. Go over my ideas for venue set up, where things are going to be, timelined etc. Now this coordinater is new to me…..my initial coordinator was moved to another location and Im very sad…but I have to get this new person up to date on my plans. All is well and we are walking around talking about where food will be set up, , bartender, DJ….all that.
Fiance put down EVERTHING I said and suggested. EVERYTHING! He didnt like where I was suggesting puttin the buffet tables becuse of the way people would have to line up and TURN AROUND TO WALK BACK to exit the food area. He is thinking that someone might turn around with food in their hands and “BAM! – run into someone” The funny thing is…..there is PLENTY of space and I dont see it happening. Its like a 15 foot wide area/ I talked about having pitchers on water on the table. He protested that – saying someone could knock it over. ARE YOU KIDDING ME????????? Well I say they can knock down their own drinking glasses too – should we tell then no refreshments at the table????? I wanted to save some space with the head table and seat people facing each other – 4 on each side on each table. ONLY because it save valuable space and money (table linens and decore for 2 rather than 4) I said this because I found that being in a wedding party before a few times….we sat at that table litertally for 15 minutes.
He does not want people to have their backs to the general area/ guests. He wants them to feel seen. I understand that actually I do. I just feel like we are in a pinch with the space and dwindling budget.
Wants to but our DJ inside this little covered arbor thing. I want him closer the the dance floor and near other guests and able to be able to ALSO ENJOY THE PARTY since this guy is ALSO A VERY GOOD FRIEND. He says people might bump into his equipment. Well let them – its heavy and protected – they wont be able to knock it over!
Timeline – does not want the toasts DURING DINNER – wants them first thing when we are introduced then seated. Toasts, then excuse for dinner.
Basically we cant agree on anything.
I left crying
Post # 3
🙁 All of this is so stressful… It is crazy how little things can now sort of blow up into arguments around wedding time. I’m sorry about the fight, but try to go over logistics with him away from the site and explain everything; hopefully he will understand. Does your venue provide (or can you make) some kind of “map” of the room? That is what we will eventually need to do, and it seems to make more sense when it comes to where things are and space on that. Good luck to you, and don’t get too sad or stressed!
Post # 4
I do have a layout map. I will put it to use. Actually my initial coordiantor made all these suggestions. Fiance really OVERTHINKS everything and assumes the worst could happen and wants to plan accordingly he says.
Really…you want to plan for your guest to not be able to walk with a plate of food in their hands without knocking into each other???? He says assume people are basically dumb and plan that way.
I would have NEVER even though of the rediculous stuff he came up with.
Post # 5
Sorry, it’ll be ok, these are really very tiny details, give some and take some. Fiance and I have our differences to, and end up in a scream fight.
I just thought it was a bit funny are your FI’s friends and family that clumsy?
Post # 6
@Atalanta: You know…I hope they are not that clumsy!!! You never know though. 🙂
I suspect he may feel very left out too. I planned everything….every little detail on my own. I did it that way becuse he shoots down my ideas.It was likethat registering too…. I cried when ended that adventure too – that was also a nightmare.
The thing is…We have been together for 7 YEARS – this is just crazy. We dont fight like this/ I dont get it. 🙁
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
Sometimes it’s the smallest things (that you least expect) that cause the most heartache. Maybe have a sit-down with your plan, your layout & JUST THE TWO OF YOU – working out the nitty gritty details in the privacy of your own home might be less stressful. I find decision making on the spot tends to bring out the crazy!
Post # 8
You know….I told him the day of…he is not to show up until about 45 min before ceremony and he is really happy about that….about the fact that I will be the one there that day making sure everything is on the tables and where its supposed to be….so honestly if things dont end up exactly where he wants it, or pitchers of water magicaly end up on the tables – i bet he will never notice.
Im going to go his way on the head table thing. It is important to him so that is that. All will be fine I know it.