Post # 1
Have you ever had those crazy, cranky, bitchy moments where you take something your SO says or does and completely overreacts about it and makes it a bigger deal than it is? I never used to be like this in the relationship but lately I have been and I always feel so guilty afterwards. I have been under a lot of stress lately and tend to jump the gun quicker. He of course is always understanding and even though he does get annoyed and says does get annoyed when I do it he doesn’t let us affect our relationship. I hate getting like this sometimes and I never used to be like this in our relationship. I’m hoping after all the stress im dealing with goes away that this irrationality will go away too.
My question is fellow bees did you ever have a period in your relationship where you were starting dumb arguments and getting mad over nothing and how did you just learn to not overanaylze things.
I appreciate the help ladies. I don’t want this to ever get in the way of our relationship and I know it is something I need to work on too.
Post # 3
Of course. My Dh, the aviation buff, refers to it as my”spooling up”. I can take something he says and be off and spooling it up to mega proportions.
Mind you, Dh is very respectful and quite wary of stepping on land mines, so he’s seldom the perp. I have a severe case of GAD and panic disorder. Severe enough that it causes my severe major clinical depression, so anxiety is definitely at the root of my inappropriate reactions.
I think if you can find ways of managing your stress, the problem will work itself out. What makes you feel calmer? Yoga, meditation, exercise, music, a long bath, even counseling, whatever works for you. Maybe talking it out with a good friend or venting right here can help.
Post # 4
@sassy411: I also have GAD and find that many times it is my anxiety that causes me to overanaylze many situations and cause arguments about them. It definitely is something I need to work on
Post # 5
We do torment ourselves, don’t we?
My therapist calls it “awfulizing” when I take a less than ideal situation and blow it up into a giant tragedy.
I’m working on it.
Post # 6
@weddingguest101: I have anxiety too, and I do the saaaame thing. I’m getting better about not tormenting FH with it but he does get pretty frustrated when I do it.