@pokie45: I’m having what I consider to be a small wedding, about 80-85 people. (Just immediate relatives and closest friends)
What was your reasoning?
It was primarily because we didn’t want it to be a big huge blow-out wedding with people we didn’t know. We didn’t want to deal with having to meet new people and make small talk (be it with distant relatives, friends-of-friends and their SOs, etc) with people we would most likely never speak with again.
Budget was the other reason (location was expensive — it was too perfect to give up lol. TBH we probably would have invited a few more people if the place weren’t so expensive, but we are very happy with our current guestlist just the same)
Do you regret it at all?
I hope not! LOL
What did you tell friends/family members who weren’t invited?
This was tough. In addition having our closest friends, we decided on inviting immediate family only (on both sides) and had to explain to everyone “due to the intimate nature of our wedding” we are unable to invite “plus ones” (unless they are married or engaged).
But they were okay with it, I think. No hard feelings (THAT I KNOW OF HAHA)
**EDIT** oh, and to “friends” (more like “acquaintances you like better than others”) who were not invited, when the topic comes up I just say that we are having a ‘really small wedding with mostly family and a few close friends.'(An aside, I feel terrible for saying this but I feel that I am consciously making less of an effort to catch up with these ‘semi-friends’ because I am avoiding the awkward, ‘we’re getting married but can’t invite you’ conversation. Ah well)
How many people were in your wedding party?
3 BMs/GMs on each side
What kind of food was served?
We are having a sit-down luncheon.
Was there dancing? Etc etc.
We will have a dance floor, and FH and I will do a first dance… and we will invite others to join us on the dance floor… but it is not going to be a big part of the party because we are not big dancers AND it is also a day-time reception that will end before sun down. We are going to focus on entertainment during/after the meal (e.g. an interactive game or two, and live performances from my friends/family!)