Post # 1
You know those people that are nothing but annoying and negative? How exactly do you deal with them? I constantly see people saying things along the lines of “I don’t let them bother me” but my question is, how exactly do you do that?! I can’t help but be bothered by some of these people, and I have no idea how to physically make myself unbothered while around them. I can smile and laugh and fake nice but on the inside I’m fuming at them.
Case in point: the woman in one of our couple-friendships. She is the most annoying person I have ever had the displeasure of meeting. She is 26, talks in a baby voice constantly, and acts like she’s way better than me. She acts like a spoiled 15-year old girl but she is a grown-ass woman! And she is constantly criticising me and the way I act with Fiance.
For example Fiance and I have this little sort of game we play: whenever he wears collared shirts he’ll pop the collar and see how long it takes me to notice and then fold it back down. We’ve been doing this for a year, we laugh about it every single time, it’s one of our little relationship insiders. Now, last night at dinner he popped up his collar. I noticed a few minutes later and folded it back down, we shared a smile and laughed and then went back to eating. Harmless enough, right? Apparently not. She watches this and then snaps at me “For fucks sake Gingersnap, his collar is fine. Leave it alone”. Um… as if this is any of her business?! And as if it’s even a big enough deal to comment on. The thing is, she treats her boyfriend like shit. She orders him around, demands he do every single little thing for her, and then screams at him when he does it wrong. But do I say anything? NO. Because it’s not my place to.
Seems small, I know. But when every little interaction is her acting like this it grates on my nerves. How exactly do I go about dealing with her? Not seeing her isn’t an option, her boyfriend is FI’s best friend. I just need to know how you bees deal with someone so annoying you want to stab them in the eye with a fork. I want to not let it bother me, but I’m not quite sure how to go about it. Is there some kind of trick to it or are you just blessed with patience?
(She was actually really nice to me when we first met. Then Fiance and I got engaged and she completely switched attitudes. She is jealous and thinks that because she has been with her boyfriend longer, they should be engaged first. She actually told Fiance this when he told his friend the happy news of our engagement in January. Now she hates me.)
Wow.. that got long. Sorry! Feel free to share stories of people who annoy you!
Post # 3
Wow, she sounds like she is totally out of line! No wonder you are annoyed with her! Why do you guys keep hanging out with them? Does your FH get along well with her partner?
Post # 4
@brideatbeach: Yea he does, they’re best friends and have been for more than 10 years. Her boyfriend is actually really great! I love hanging out with him and I think he’s hilarious and really nice. Unfortunately they live together so when we invite the friend somewhere we have to be polite and invite her too.
Post # 5
@Gingersnap:Bummer!! 🙁 I guess I would encourage your FH to hang out with his buddy as much as he can on his own so you don’t have to deal with the monster bitch! Hopefully he’ll see the light and get a new girlfriend you will get along with. 🙂
Post # 6
She sounds jealous of your relationship, and how happy you are together, IMO.
Post # 7
that totally sucks, and I hear your pain! I wish I could help you, but I don’t know how to deal with annoying people either. I wish I knew!
I have a co-worker who annoys me, so of course I can’t get away from her. her habits are oh so grating. like, whenever somebody in the office sneezes, she’ll yell from her office “bless you!” really loud every single time–even if the person sneezes five times in a row. she thinks she’s being cute and funny, but it’s just annoying. she does things like that all the time. on top of all that, she has a job that I shoud have and she doesn’t have the knowhow so she’s not good at it. grrrr.
I could give you a million more examples of how annoying she is, but I don’t want this to be a long post. I try my best to suck it up and be nice to her. I won’t be working there forever, so I keep reminding myself that 🙂
Post # 8
As far as how do I deal — I vent to Fiance and Bff/MOH. 🙂 I have a few jealous people in my life (a friend that thought she should be engaged first because she’s 6 months older, no joke…even though we’d been together a year longer).
Post # 9
if anyone spoke to me I would probably resond with a “for fucksakes bitchface mcgee, mind your own goddamn business and get a life plzkthnx –it’s called flirting.” *insert eye roll here*
Ditto to what a pp mentioned, encourage your Fiance to hang out with his friend doing man time things so you don’t have to deal with the bitchy girlfriend. It sounds like jealousy through and through and unfortunately no one can change her attitude but her.
Post # 10
@missmouse29: Oh that is a wonderful response. I lold for real.
At OP, jealousy is a nasty mosnter and I think anyone who is happy in their relationship will have to deal with it eventually since there are a lot of miserable people out there. Everyone has good suggestions so far.