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Sorry you're dealing with this, I know it's no fun!! I'm in a kind of similar situation. We had booked a venue that we didn't love, because it was inexpensive and easy to work with (we could bring our own food, drinks, etc.) I mean it's very nice, but it's just not us. Now we're trying to find a place that we really love and can imagine ourselved getting married, but every one we find is NOT easy to work with like the other one. boooooooo
Good luck!!
Yes, I know what you mean. I had a hard time finding a place I liked (also in NJ/YNY area, where lots of things are overdone, sad to say) or loved, but it eventually worked out. Where was your venue and where are you looking?
I think you're doing the right thing by finding another venue. You really don't want to have venue stress on top of everything else, and if you are already having a hard time dealing with them, I think you're right in guessing that it won't get easier. I don't have any advice, but I wish you luck in your search!
My fiancee and I went to a bridal expo shortly after we got engaged. And we decided upon the following rule of thumb: we would only work with vendors where the actual person themself was at the expo and we got a good vibe from them. The baker we chose? Her booth was manned by her, herself, the actual baker. The venue we chose, we met the actual owner there. And so on.
So far that rule of thumb has worked out very well. Everyone we chose has been responsive and easy to work with. But I'll post a full vendor review after the wedding is over...
Research, Research, Research! For the most part, this generation of brides-to-be are quite vocal. Search venues you like and scroll down and look for posts and reviews about venues. If in doubt, post in the community section of your local Craigslist and get the scoop. Luckily I attended a wedding at an awesome venue a few years ago and fell in love with it - I was there to see the place in action, and LOVED it! No second guessing or last minute glitches there!
Good luck!
Yes - this happened to us. I was completely head over heels for this hotel venue I found only to find out that after we met with the event coordinator she was unresponsive to my questions (if I email you Monday and don't hear anything by Friday, and then I have to call you to get an answer and even then you act like I'm a bother, nevermind... we will take our money elsewhere.) That is just down right ridiculous. I mean we aren't talking a couple bucks here venue people - we are talking hundreds and thousands. Oh, the funny thing is too that when FI emailed her, she emailed him back in less than 5 min flat but I had to chase her around to try and get answers to the same questions. We have since decided to do a smaller ceremony/'after party' and are glad we are not longer dealing with them. I think you're smart to get another venue - regardless of how amazing the actual venue is, if the service is unreliable and downright bad, you're better off elsewhere. That's just one more stressor you don't need!
Bella
We're going through a venue change too! Ours just isn't suited to our taste.
@Bella Luna--That sounds EXACTLY like what we went through. I've emailed and called, and no one gets back to me in a timely manner. And I kept telling my FI the same thing--we're asking you questions about the THOUSANDS we'll spend on you and you don't have the courtesy to get back?
Sorry, goodbye!
Although now i feel like all of my research was for nothing...we really wanted a vineyard wedding, and we looked at every vineyard within 2 hours of us...none had exactly what we wanted like this place. So I feel a little lost now...trying to come up with other ideas and still incorporate our love of wine...
Here's hoping we find something we love!
That's rough, I'm sorry to hear that. I think it's best that your realized this now though, you should have more than enough time to find a new place. You don't want to have to deal with a vendor you don't trust, or who could be difficult on your wedding day! Keep looking, you'll find the perfect place! Good luck!
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I've had to make a tough decision recently about the wedding--the venue we wanted for our ceremony and reception was just too difficult to work with, and I know I'll be driven crazy if I have to deal with them for the next year. So...we're scrapping our plans with our venue and we'll look for something else. (no contracts have been signed, so we're not losing anything)
I really could picture us having our wedding there, and it felt like a special place to me. Unfortunately, the owners and the event coordinator have been nothing but difficult to work with. They're new on the wedding scene and haven't quite navigated their way through the process of dealing with customers in a quick and pleasant way, nor were they receptive to our vision of what we want our wedding to be.
I was willing to give them a chance on the faith that they would become much better over the next year, but they haven't given me much reason for me to have that faith--they didn't get back to me, didn't answer my questions, and didn't give me a concrete plan of how they picture their business to be running by next year.
Has this happened to any of you? I feel like there really wasn't another space we love love loved for the wedding, and we definitely don't want to settle.