Those who eloped or had a very intimate wedding: logistics questions!

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@psb23:  you can always hold your flowers together I saw this on a blog and try to find it for you. You can hand them off to a designated guest or place them in a vase on a table if you are doing a unity item maybe on that same table. I don’t thinking walking down by yourself is odd but maybe make sure of setting stuff up yourself you don’t make the aisle too wide. Everything else would be the same for every bride: hold your bouquet at your belly button and even show your florist so they don’t make the flowers too high and cover up details on your dress, pause first when you get to the guests, walk at a nice pace, breath and don’t forget to take it all in

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@psb23: 

 

Where do I set my bouquet after I get down the aisle so it doesn’t look cluttered or out of place in photos?

I held the bouquet myself for most of the ceremony, right up until the ring exchange part.  Then I handed mine to my witness who was seated, but a nearby table or empty chair would have worked.  Ours was outside and they set up a special table and chair just for signing the marriage certificate which was off to the left in this photo.  Actually I think the officiant took it from me and handed it to the witness, so I really didn’t have to think about it!


 

Also, where do I keep my groom’s ring and my wedding vows? Can I give them to him or set them on a table maybe with a case on it (no water) for my flowers?

My H kept both rings in his pocket.  Then for the ring ceremony, he handed them to the officiant.  She then handed a ring to us one at a time and had the riciting part done.


 

Lastly, those who walked down the aisle alone, is it awkward? Any tips?

We actually walked into the ceremony together!  It’s a Swedish tradition and he is of Swedish and Norwegian decent (although I found this on the internet).  It was perfect.  We did our first look right near the ceremony, but off in the woods.  Then we joined arms and walked down the stairs to the ceremony space!  PS – we did not have any music either.

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Remember not to hunch over or scrunch up your shoulders.  Stand straight and confident.  Put a slight smile on your face at all times because there will be nonstop photos (if you have a photographer).  I had the sun in my face at times, so I had to really hide my squinting!

PS – we did not recite vows that we had to read from paper.  It was all the “repeat after me” vows.  In Canada they had slightly different verbiage than we do in the US, but I did work with the officiant to add our own touch.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@psb23:  We need a table for our ceremony; I plan to put my bouquet on it after I walk down the aisle. We’ll probably keep our vows and rings on the table, as well. 

@sienna76:  I love that you walked down the aisle together! 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I set my flowers down on a bench next to me. I think I have the JP the rings. You could give your officiant your rings, vows ahead of time.

we walked up to the JP together.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Beautiful photo! Is that Emerald Lake? I am asking because my mom wants to get married and one of her picks is Emerald Lake! Congrats!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We are eloping to City Hall.  There won’t be any aisle to walk down, so we will walk into the room together and wait our turn if there are other people there.  I don’t think I will have a bouquet but, if I do, I will probably hold it during the short “ceremony”.  I will have his ring and he will have mine and we will exchange then.  Or maybe after vows?  Because they only do “Do you take this man?  Do you take this woman?” and I don’t think they say anything about exchanging rings.  I am guessing that the whole thing will probably be over in under 5 minutes! 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think a table would solve most of your problems, perhaps just a slim one, beside your officiant.

We’re only having four guests, and an officiant, so I think I will probably give both our vows to the officiant before hand, to pass to us when the moment comes. Our friends will hold the rings and my bouquet if needed.

 

We’re actually getting married in Central Park, so my two girls and I are gonna leave the hotel and get a cab to the park, and walk through to our chosen spot, with our photographer. The boys will meet the officiant, and wait for us. There won’t be an aisle, though I’ll probably hang back until everyone’s ready and step out to meet my FI.

 

Hope your wedding is great!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We Eloped, and got Married on a beach.

We walked to the site together (much like @sienna76: did)

Mr TTR had The Rings in his pocket

We didn’t write our own Vows… we used Traditional Ones.

I carried my Flowers, and put them down on the sand at our feet just before The Ring Exchange / Vows part of the Ceremony.

Chances are your Officiant has done small Intimate Weddings or Elopements before, so they’ll be able to guide you thru the process… I wouldn’t worry too much really.  Everything will turn out fine

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

@This Time Round:  we are planning to elope in keywest next year! did you enjoy it, did you have a wedding place that you went through? we are going to be taking a cruise that stops in key west for the day and do a ceremoney on the beach. did u get your marriage license there also?  sorry for all the questions.lol

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @ChelseaGabrielle:  We organized our Wedding thru The Keys Website = http://www.fla-keys.com/weddings/

And our Hotel helped us with the Details.

If you plan to marry off of a Cruise, the Cruise Lines have similar services

PS… There isn’t much in the way of Beaches in The Keys due to the fact that the Islands are surrounded by a significant Reef.  If you want a true Beach Wedding, you need to go further North… such as Bahia Honda State Park or up to Key Largo (our fave).  Key West is a nice Destination, but better for partying / honeymooning than actual marrying IMO

Getting married while ashore from a cruise can be a hassle… You should think about marrying BEFORE you get on the cruise… easy enough to do in either Fort Lauderdale or Miami.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@VanIsleGal:  Yes it is Emerald Lake!  We used their elopement package deal and it make everything super easy.  If you’re mom needs opinions, I’d be happy to share my experience!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@psb23: I to am eloping! Before we decided to elope I was planning a small wedding (about 30 guests) and even then I was considering walking down the aisle by myself. There is my dad, and we have a good relationship, just being older (28 yrs) I felt awkward with him “giving me away”.

Once we moved across the country we ditched the wedding idea and decided to plan an “elopement” with his mom and sister and my mom and step-dad. Our plan is to have the photographer do our “first look” and then we’ll walk together to where our people are and the officiant.

As for the bouqet, I saw a photo of a couple standing on a blanket with the officiant for the ceremony. The bride just layed the bouqet between them on the blanket. It actually looked really nice in the photos and not out of place.

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