Those with diamond simulants

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

i tell them that mine is a sapphire 🙂

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I have never had anyone ask, so I don’t comment.

I am having a ring made with a barely pink moissanite, and I think that one I am more likely to explain– since there is no way it is a pink diamond.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Andyboots:  I don’t have a simulant but thought I’d contribute anyway. For what it’s worth, no one has ever asked me about my stone OR commented on my diamond. I don’t know if that’s because it very obviously looks like a real diamond so there is no reason to, but I’m not friends with gemologists and I’m sure none would know the difference between a CZ/moissy and diamond.

The only time I could I disclosed info about the stone is when someone asked, “is that a blood diamond?” as a joke.

I seriously have a hard time thinking about someone with a simulant could reply to compliments with, “Thanks, it’s moissanite.” If feel like if I complimented someone’s ring IRL and they disclosed the type of stone it was, I’d reply with “ummmmm okay?”

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@letigre:  In the very rare instances where someone has asked about my e-ring, I do volunteer what it is (aquamarine) and why (special significance to us as a couple). No one finds it odd, and they learn a little bit of trivia.  If I had a stone that looked like a diamond, but wasn’t one, I would likely educate anyone who asked on what it is.  But that’s just me.  If I’m fond of it enough to wear it as an engagement ring, then I would be fond enough to disclose what the stone is when complimented on it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t volunteer information and I’ve never been asked what it is or to confirm its diamondyness.  For those that believe the authenticity of my love/ engagement is based on whether it’s a certified diamond or not, I cannot help and they can go on making those sorts of judgments without any implications on my life.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

No one has asked if my ring is a diamond, or has complimented my “diamond” directly. If someone did ask, I would be more than willing to talk about what a great deal I got, how great it has held up, and how even professional jewelers have mistaken it for diamond, then pass them along to the website 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@SeaSalt:  There is just a pervasive attitude that those with simulants need to disclose, and I just have a hard time imagining how that would be appropriate in conversation unless you have the time to say, “well there was this meteor that landed on earth and some scientist discovered a substance called moissanite. Fast forward a few decades and a company thought they could turn the green crystals into a colourless spectrum and facet it so it could look similar to diamonds…”

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@letigre:  

Person: Who, what a beautiful ring!

Me: Thank you! It’s a XXXX. <insert tidbit about stone here>

That is what I would do. Again, if I was all crazy about moissys or ashas or whatever enough to want it as my engagement ring, I would be thrilled to share my discovery with others.  For me personally, I did not want a diamond (I have 5 diamond e-rings at home from family members). That’s cool, and I get that lots of people don’t.  So I have no problem explaining what I have and why, and people have been genuinely interested in it.  But I also didn’t want something that 99% of the world would assume is a diamond either.  I guess if I felt that I was trying to misrepresent my stone, I might not be eager to share, but I never had, and am proud of its story, so I’ve always been happy to share.

(All irrelevant now given I don’t wear my e-ring now that we’re married)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@letigre:  I love you for saying this! I’m a science geek (and nervous of the ecological/human ramifications of diamonds) and for those reasons, I’m desperate for a moissanite! My SO is convinced that an engagement ring must be diamond, and I’m trying to talk him out of eventually purchasing a diamond. I have already told a lot of people in my personal life that I  want moissanite, so I probably wouldn’t have to explain it to them… But strangers or acquaintances? Um, it’s just awkward to throw back a long-winded response when someone throws a “nice ring!” your way.

 

A lot of cz/moissanite bees get a lot of crap from bees with diamonds for “faking it”, but it’s just hard NOT TO, even when you don’t WANT to!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I tell most people it’s a moissanite because I specifically chose a moissanite center over a diamond.  Since I have diamond sidestones, it’s a good way for people to see the optical differences between the two and it always makes for an interesting conversation.  I have never had anyone specifically ask me if it’s a diamond or not though.  I honestly think the most judgement you’ll get for having a moissy is here on the bee.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Granted, I don’t have a moissy and I’ve only had my engagement ring for like a week, but no one ever says “your diamond is nice” They usually say “I love your ring,” maybe “wow, what a rock,” something along those lines, and I just say thank you.

I could see it happening with earrings maybe “I love those diamond earrings” But I just don’t think anyone’s walking around calling out diamonds specifically in an engagement ring, that’d be a little strange and if someone did, I’d think they were fishing.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Andyboots:  I have a moissanite and I tell everyone exactly what it is! My ring is quite large, and I feel that I would get more judgement from it being a diamond than a moissanite – and I would judge myself too. Most people are aware of the somewhat dubious ethics of the diamond industry and I didn’t want to buy into that.  I chose moissanite over other stones for a reason so why wouldn’t I want to share it? I get a beautiful sparkly ring from a clean source and for a fraction of the price, what’s not to be proud of. In fact, I actively discourage people from thinking it’s a diamond 🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have a 2.1 diamond ring and have beeen asked.  “Is it real?”  How rude?  

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