Thought experiment (with poll): HIRE a surrogate, or BE one?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Which would you rather?
    Hire a surrogate and pay them half a year's salary : (57 votes)
    54 %
    Be a surrogate and get paid half a year's salary for it : (48 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 2
    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    **disclaimer** I would only be a surrogate for a loved one and would only hire a loved one as a surrogate.

    That being said, I would be more willing to be a surrogate than to pay for one.

    Post # 3
    6674 posts
    Bee Keeper

    No brainer.  If hiring a surrogate was the only way to have our children, that’s what we’d have to do. 

    Post # 4
    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    iarebridezilla:  I would chose to BE a surrogate. I wouldn’t mind doing that service for someone and getting paid for it. I wouldn’t even mind if they were controlling and told me what to eat etc…I have a friend who has been trying so hard to conceive and HYPOTHETICALLY if she needed me to be a surrogate I would want to do that for her.

    I don’t think I could hire one because I wouldn’t want the expense and then not even get the experience. But my opinion on that is biased since in reality I don’t want children so it doesn’t seem “worth it” to me.

    In reality I don’t want to go through pregnancy either lol but for the sake of the *experiment* I would choose to be a surrogate.

    Post # 5
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I would be a surrogate for a half a year’s salary (although if it were a real life scenario I’d do it for no salary, because I’m Canadian and surrogates cannot get paid lol). Primary reason is that I have an autoimmune disease, and pregnancy can put my symptoms into remission without harming the baby. If I were to keep having my own kids, I’d be symptom-free for a long time, but we’d be overrun with kids (and probably wind up with a reality show on TLC)

    Plus, I’d have an amazing opportunity to help a family who cannot conceive otherwise. 

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  MSNDBride.
    Post # 8
    6048 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    So for vanity reasons vs. medical condition.   No I wouldn’t hire myself out or hire someone to do that for vanity reasons.   Isn’t there a problem to with the courts, you as the mother of this child, technically has to adopt your child because you didn’t birth the child?  

    I guess since i can’t pick neither… i’d take the cash and hope things went normal pregnancy.



    • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  .
    Post # 9
    4959 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would rather be a surrogate! I totally look forward to the experience of carrying and giving birth to my own children.

    Post # 12
    6674 posts
    Bee Keeper

    iarebridezilla:     You said “Imagine you live in a world where you are forced to choose between hiring a surrogate to carry your children, or being hired as a surrogate for someone else.”. To me, that meant a surrogate is the only way you can have kids.  

    If not, are you saying that everyone is required to do one of these things or the other in addition to the possibility of giving birth to biological children?  

    OK, in that case, I’d choose to be a surrogate, but not anything to do with money.  I wanted to carry my  children, if possible,  and your choice only allows that for some of my children and not for others.  

    Post # 13
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    My health would make it difficult to carry a baby at all, so if I can have a pregnancy it will be my baby. So, given my circumstances, I’d pay a surrogate rather than be one.

    Post # 14
    3806 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    iarebridezilla:  i’m pregnant now and i share the same exact sentiment. i choose to get excited and feel sentimental about certain moments in pregnancy but i can really do without it. lol i’m already planning my life post-baby. oh the wine…and the marathons… i can’t wait. lol

    Post # 15
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I was violently ill while pregnant the last time so I would happily choose to have a surrogate gestate our child.  However, at half a year’s salary we would probably decide not to have any children at all.

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