Post # 1
Last weekend, SO told me all about the truck he really wants to get. He currently drives a compact car that is only about 3 years old. He’s put a lot of miles on it and really wants to trade it in before it hits 80,000. He currently sits at about 50,000 miles. He wants to trade it in on a big shiny manly truck. A truck, that even with his trade-in will probably almost double his current car payment.
I must have looked as disappointed as I felt because he said, “Don’t worry…I’ll figure out your ring stuff before I get the truck.”
Which is comforting, but also disheartening. He had previously recieved a payout from unused vacation from work, which more than covered the ring we picked out together. He mentioned he was going to use that to pay for it so he wouldn’t have a monthly payment.
If he is saying “I’ll get it figured out before the truck” then that leads me to believe my “ring thing” is not yet “figured out” and that money he had is apparently gone.
Ugh. Just a bad waiting day, is all. So the crazy bee in me is trying to figure out how long 30,000 more miles is!
So I now have the “before this time next year” timeline but also the “before I trade in my car at or before 80,000 miles”. In other words…not a clue!
Post # 3
@MissRuthie: So at his current rate he drives about 14 hundred miles a month. Which puts the new truck about 21 and a half months out. Which also means significantly after the “before this time next year”. So good news it will be before this time next year.
Does he seriously average 46 miles a day?
Post # 4
Aw maybe he just means he’ll put the final touchs to the ring purchase or maybe the proposal. Maybe?
Post # 5
That’s so irritating. My SO did the same thing. He told me to expect a ring in the coming weeks, but then changed his mind and decided that we should wait until “next semester.” GRRRRRR
Hang in there! Maybe he’s just pulling your leg so he can surprise you!
Post # 6
@AtLeastIHaveHim: He has had a couple different jobs since we started dating, both of which require him at 4-5 different locations every week, ranging from 5 miles to 20 miles away in the Houston area (i.e. worst traffic ever) So yes, he drives a LOT!
@Peaceoutboyscout: I hope he’s trying to throw me off! Not sure his male brain has the same creative-liar drive my female brain has but I’m hoping so!
We got on the subject last night (not my doing! I shut it up unless otherwise asked!) of proposals. I finally told him all the things that actually mattered because he put too much pressure on himself to plan the perfect one. I told him I’d be just as happy in my pj’s at home, as long as he 1) Asks my dad for permission [my stepdad too if he wants major bonus points] and 2) Catches me completely off guard.
I flat out told him “My mind works too fast. If I suspect there’s a huge set up going on, I’m going to figure it out and ruin it. Ask me on a random Tuesday and don’t give me a chance to suspect a thing.” I would love a big public proposal in front of a beautiful place when I just happened to have my hair, makeup, nails, and clothes perfect but… thats unrealistic for us and I would know what was happening before we ever leave the house.
I think since he’s bringing it up on his own, he may be thinking about it more than I originally thought.
P.S. He packed my lunch today. Not proposal related but it was really freaking cute and makes waiting a little easier
Post # 7
@MissRuthie: I was engaged once before and had the big public proposal complete with a scavenger hunt around San Diego. My then SO told me it was for a movie one of our director friends was making. The proposal part was supposed to be a surprise… ARE YOU SERIOUS? I knew the second he asked if I was interested in doing the “hunt” that it was going to be a proposal. Men underestimate our brains I swear. I’m exactly like you, I told my SO to ask me on the way to the grocery store or when I step out of the shower so I can be completely surprised lol! It puts less pressure on him and I think it’s somehow a little more special when its just you and your SO.