(Closed) Thought I’d come here and share my story.. its bestfriend related.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow!  I would’ve been hurt, too.  What exactly was her mom “superstitious” about?  I’ve never heard that before!  Maybe the superstition had to do with being in someone else’s wedding before your own… and it’s okay now that she’s married, LoL.  Idk.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

im guessing your friend did some growing up in the past few years and learnt to put her mothers superstitions in the bin where they belong  or finances was an issue back then and she used her mum as an excuse –  but i do understand why you are hurt, it would be very upsetting and your feelings are valid.  sometimes good friends make silly or hurtful choices 🙁

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Maybe her mom’s superstition was about her being a bridesmaid before she was married, and that in her (crazy) mind it would be ok to be a BM after she was already married?

I don’t know, just something to think about!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You didn’t ask her what the superstition was when she first told you that?  I guess I’m just nosy, but I definitely would’ve been asking her all kinds of questions about it.  I would’ve been scared that her mom had some kind of bad ‘vision’ about my wedding day or marriage, LoL.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Is it the “three times a bridesmaid never a bride” thing she was superstitious about?

Not that I agree with what she did but if that is the case then being a bridesmaid after her own wedding probably didn’t phase her.

I’d speak to her about it, just explain how hurt you are.  I’d be the same!  I’m sure you can work it out.

Hugs 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah, I’d imagine that it was something to do with “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” thing. I’d start out nicely as far as “Hey, saw the pics — they were gorgeous!” and then see where she goes from there about the experience. You’ll know the right moment to say (hopefully with more curiosity than accusation in your voice) “So what changed that your mom was OK with you being a bridesmaid now?” Good luck!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Mrs. Ginger:Ditto. I think some people don’t want to be a bridesmaid before they’re married. You can ask her though. A lot of the other PPs all had some good ideas. It might have been an excuse because she couldn’t afford it–either way she is your best friend, even if she wasn’t your MOH.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d totally ask her about it. Please let us know what she says.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would tell her to go pound sand! WHo needs a friend like that? 22 years or not!

Post # 15
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Busy bee

maybe it wasnt bad luck anymore because she was married now…

 

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