(Closed) Thought we got along….

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t be offended by this at all! It sounds like she was saying that she thought you deserved a ring. Even if you guys have an engagement ring picked out, she was mentioning a promise ring. I would think it was a nice gesture—she’s obviously supportive of the two of you being together, and it seems like she thinks you should have something pretty on your finger! 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, I think she’s just saying she expects you to have a ring. You know older generations…they’re hard to kick from their habits…and in her mind, proposal = ring!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I think that she did not do something wrong, she clearly said that the rings she picked up would be promise rings and not E-rings. I think that she meant that you should have a ring that symbolises your promise until you can actually have the one you picked up.Must say I am a bit biased maybe as I do wear a promise ring.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

agree with pp.  It seems like she just thinks you deserve a little bling for your ring finger while you wait for the real thing,  though i wasn’t there so I don’t know what her tone was when she was saying this.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with the other posters- she probably just wants you to have a ring to wear until you guys can afford the e-ring of your dreams.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Gonna agree with the PPs…sounds like she is calling a place holder ring a promise ring. She just wants you to have something pretty to symbolize the engagement until you get the real deal.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

honestly I thought that you were going to wait a bit longer than a by the end of the month to get your E-ring. Did she see the ring you picked up? maybe she was fishing for hints to see how it looks like ?

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Does she know exactly when you will be getting the ring?  Because if all she knows is “soon” that could mean anything.  And was she aware of the amount of time it takes them to come in?  Maybe she wasn’t thinking or sometimes they will let you purchase off the table.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Maybe you should ask FI exactly what he has told her about the ring.  My FI lived at home while saving for my ring and they had no idea he had purchased the ring yet when we showed up and announced we were engaged.  If she hasn’t hinted like this before this (since you’ve been engaged) or since this incident then I wouldn’t fret too much.

And I’m kind of curious what you would think she means by saying these things??

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Don’t take it so personal. Sometimes the older women are just illogical.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think it was personal really.  Maybe they are just very tradtitional and don’t consider it an engagement without a ring or maybe they are concerned you two are rushing because you got engaged before getting a ring.  And I’m sure what she was saying probably had a lot to do with pressure from her sisters.  Don’t sweat it.  If you are really bothered by it approach her or ask your FI to approach her.

Good luck!

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