Post # 1
So we’ve been married a little over a month! Everything was wonderful and I keep re thinking about that day because I loved every second of it!
One weird thing did happen though.
When I was getting ready, I just got my dress on… And we’re all talking and so excited of course because it’s almost time to go get married! My now-MIL walks in, sees me… then walks straight over to her daughter (one of my BMs) and tells her how beautiful she looks. Not a word to me.
It used to bother me, but it’s more of an amusing oddity now. What think you, bees?
Post # 3
I’d give her a pass. She might have been tied up in the emotions of her son getting married and needed something more “light-hearted.” If you guys normally get along ok, I’d let it go. If you have a poor relationship, chalk it up to passive aggresive bull crap and let it go.
Post # 4
Yep, thats weird! My MIL posted a picture from my wedding on FB and titled it ‘my two favorites.’ It was a picture of her husband and grandson. Um..am I the only person who thinks you shouldn’t list your favorites at your son’s wedding if he is not one of your favorites? So weird it is kinda funny!
And come to think of it…she never said anything nice about how I looked the day of either. I really never thought about it or noticed before, probably because I wasn’t expecting it.
Post # 5
My future inlaws are like this. My FI’s sister took a pic of me, her, and her daughter and then said how there are such two beautiful girls in the picture – meaning her and her daughter! These types of things happen all the time too. I’m sure at the wedding there will be many pictures focused on the niece (who is a bridesmaid) and cropping me out. It is so over the top oblivious and rude that I have to laugh at it.
Post # 6
Sounds like my MIL. She usually acts like that when my SIL is not the center of attention.
dont let it bother you, MIL are weird sometimes lol
Post # 7
My mother in law can be the same way :-). I don’t think she told me that I looked beautiful that day. There’s a picture of DH and I standing with her and her husband. She is grasping on to DH for life, looks like she’s trying to say, “DON’T GO!!!!”. I laugh at it. I am normally pretty sensitive, but I’ve seen her treat my SIL the same way. I chalk it up to it’s tough for her to let someone else step in with her sons.
Post # 8
Sounds like something my MIL would do given the opportunity. When I had my first child she used to buy a bunch of bibs, onsies etc., with captions like “Daddy’s Girl” and “I Love My Daddy,” but never anything that said “Mommy” on it. My mom never bought “Mommy’s Girl” items because she didn’t want to hurt my husband’s feelings, so I felt like a bit of an orphan- lol. When my second child came along I bought the bibs myself!
But my MIL is equally insensitive to my brother-in-law, so I don’t take it personally.
Post # 9
I think my mother is the cringe-worthy MIL to my SIL. She once asked if I thought it would be a good idea for her to offer to pay for marriage counseling for my brother and SIL since they fought a lot. NONONO! MOM, don’t meddle in your son’s marriage – he’ll be fine, they’re just volatile people, that’s how they work it out. When SIL got pregnant she told her that she didn’t need a breast pump, she’d show her how to pump by hand. Uh, no thanks, don’t need my MIL squeezing my boobs, plus insurance pays for it.
Post # 10
It definitely is a WTF moment…I am glad you are taking it with a grain of salt and not allowed her to steal your joy. Just think you dont live with her and only see her on special occasions (thank God). You are blessed to have married a man that loves you.
CONGRATS ON YOUR WEDDING AND I SEND BLESSINGS FOR A LONG AND HAPPY LIFE TOGETHER.
Post # 11
That would have bugged me too. This is the kind of story that makes me want to elope, as I know they will find a way to emotionally try to sabotage things, if you know what I mean.
Post # 12
Lol! I am loving all of these other MIL stories that aren’t so… “She’s breaking me and my DH up!” and serious. 🙂
Post # 13
@almostmrsj: I would laugh forever if someone (ANYONE) offered to teach me how to pump my boobies by hand. 😉
Post # 14
I am pretty sure…that happened at my wedding. LOL. I don’t think my MIL said one nice thing to me all night and definitely didn’t say a single nice thing to my mom either. My mom is still pretty upset over this. I just laughed it off since I’m sadly used to it. *sigh*.
Post # 15
eh, I figure people will always like their own children more than any other people, and think they’re more attractive too! I don’t have kids, but you can bet you ass that my dog is always the prettiest dog at the dog park. Even if there is a white purebred poodle strutting her stuff. Not that I’m comparing you to a poodle but… you know…
@almostmrsj: “When SIL got pregnant she told her that she didn’t need a breast pump, she’d show her how to pump by hand. Uh, no thanks, don’t need my MIL squeezing my boobs, plus insurance pays for it.”
LOL NO, OMG.
Post # 16
LOL, my MIL would never think to bother complimenting me at my wedding. But she would also never think to bother complimenting DH, or anyone else. DH sent them the wedding photos and never heard back about them–when he finally asked if they’d looked at them, ILs simply said “oh yeah, we saw them.” SIGH. It hurts DH a lot but that is just how they are, not anything to do with us.