Post # 1
I’m sure you have all gotten some questionable input, especially if your ring is smaller/unusual.
My poor FI the other day was at an engagement party, and being polite, asked to see the newly engaged women’s ring (cause let’s be honest, don’t we all just LOVE to show it off). At that moment FI’s friend walked up and said something along the lines of “WOW, that is the best ring I have ever seen, why didn’t you give (my name) something like this?” Luckily, I wasn’t there and my FI is nice and just complimented the women and changed the subject.
However, it really rubbed me wrong because my center diamond was from his mom’s engagement ring (therefore it has a lot of sentiment) and I chose my DREAM SETTING, which btw (and not nearly as important) is from a very respectable, high end brand. People are so thoughtless sometimes when they have this notion about what a girl should want/ should wear as an e-ring.
What are some of the gems that people have said to you about your ring?
Post # 3
My boss told me my ring was “cute.” And not in a nice way.
Post # 4
Well when I first got it and my grandmother asked to see it (she is a rich snot that clams she is poor and nothing is ever good enough) so when I showed it to her she was like “that it? I thought it would be fancier….like Michelles!”
Michelle is my younger cousin who is getting married 13 day after I am….so everything is about her.
Well her FH bought her a $6,000.00+ e-ring. It was like 2.5ct set in platnium
I was offened…and I let her know…I was like “yeah well Michelle FH is from money and Im sure you love that too. I however love my 1.5 ct. Mystic Fire Topaz solitary set in Sterling silver…..it fits my personality and he picked it out!”
I dont knock anyones ring…I personally perfer a simple wedding set.
I love seeing girls with the over the top bling. I wont lie its really pretty and its suits them very well….even though I do wonder sometimes how the heck they hold her hand up to show the ring off when its sold bling from the nuckle to half way down the finger! LOL!
Post # 5
My FI’s sister has a ring in a style similar to mine. At a family function my FI’s sister wanted to take a closer look at mine just for kicks so I took it off and handed it to her. She took hers off and compared them together. That part didn’t bother me so much since it seemed like she was just comparing the detailing on the sides (mine has little hearts and hers had something else). Their brother then leaned over the table and in a sarcastic tone said “wow it looks like (my FI’s name) can afford more money for a ring than yours (sister’s name).” That was a little hurtful since my ring is about half the size of hers.
Personally, I love the fact that my ring isn’t huge. I’m very clumsy and get my ring snagged on things all the time as it is. If the three center stones were any bigger I think I might accidentally gouge somebody with it at work.
Post # 6
My sister looked at mine really closely the first time she saw it and said it looked grey. I knew it was tinted a bit in certain light, but I always thought it was closer to green than grey :(.
Post # 7
I got a backhanded one. It was “Wow that setting is so beautiful! You can always upgrade the center stone, right?” My center stone is .50 carats, but it’s a square halo and I have gotten a ton of compliments on it. Most people tend to think it’s 1 carat, probably because of the halo. I wasn’t exactly fond of this woman after that comment.
Post # 8
I had someone say “I didnt know you were engaged. I just thought that was a regular ring”. Then she says “Its beautiful though” Im like WTF, its a little too late now. Mine is a simple, classic .5 solitare in yellow gold and I love it because of the quality and its what I chose. Lets just say, I let her have it! 😉
Post # 9
The only thing I can really recall anyone saying was “Oh, was that what you wanted?”
I don’t think they were trying to be rude, it’s just an unconventional engagement ring.
Post # 10
@d_mari3: I had a msystic topaz in my ring and I hit it on a shelf in our warehouse. Just be careful….
We replaced it with a super pale aquamarine- which does this amazing change depending on what I wear, and the clouds in the sky.
Post # 11
Question? I thought topaz, aquamarine, and other stones of this nature didnt come in caret? rather they were measured- e.g mine is 11×9 mm? any jeweler types have an opinion?
Post # 12
It’s funny. I had a dream last night that DH replaced my ering into a huge stunning saphire. Yet, in my dream, I frantically wanted my 1/4 carat diamond back and went on a hunt to fnd it where he sold it.
Moral of the dream: You don’t know what you love until it’s gone! it’s such a representation of him and the night he proposed, I didn’t want it replaced.
Sentiment is more important!
Post # 13
When I got my first stand-in ring (we had my actual e-ring made later on from a 1.5 carat heirloom diamond) it was a really pretty 1/3 carat diamond in white gold. I am super skinny with hands to match and it looked perfect. When I met FI’s coworkers soon after getting engaged, they all gave me the “Oh that’s cute” treatment, and my own boss pointed out my “cute little (!) ring” to someone else. Now that I have my real e-ring, which is almost 2 carats including the setting, it shut them up real quick haha. The funny part is I still wear my small ring most days because it is so comfy and it is actually shinier! No matter how small someone’s e-ring is I would never call it cute- they are all gorgeous!
Post # 14
my ring is pink sapphire with a little gold hydrangea blossom on it- I catch flack for it all the time. ‘Is that all he got you?’ ‘oh honey, you coulda done better than this’ or my personal favorite was when a guy was hitting on me and after I told him I was engaged he looked at my ring and said ‘shit lady- lets go downtown I’ll buy you a better one right now, would I fit in the dudes suit?’
My ring is tiny and precious and perfect- I picked it out so these comments don’t offend me in the slightest. Fi took me ring shopping and showed me a classic solitaire diamond and I was like ehhhh…let me check etsy for something a little more me. We ended up saving about 1.5k on the rings and the only repurcussion is insecure women who need a diamond to feel worthwhile (not saying this is everyone, just the women who talk down to little rings!) talking trash to me. Totally worth it.
Post # 15
If someone said anything to me, I’d just point out that a big ring would be too gaudy for my personal tastes.
I don’t like to show mine off, though. It makes me uncomfortable, not because my ring is small, but because I’m a bit of an introvert and I find it weird. So I guess I don’t get into that situation very often.
Post # 15
Why can’t people just keep their mouths shut when they see an e-ring of any size, shape, traditional, untraditional…and just say that it’s beautiful? This always peeves me.
@GeekChic: Someone called mine ‘cute’ once while everyone else looking at it was going crazy in a genuine ‘it’s beautiful’ way. I was so furious at that person for saying ‘cute’!!!!!!!!! My ring isn’t CUTE.