Post # 1
Are Friday weddings rude? My Fi and I orginally wanted our wedding on a Saturday. We booked our church and found our venue, but then we had a changes in our financial situation. We can no longer afford our original venue. We started searching again, but found all the affordable venues in our area were either booked or conflicted with our church ceremony. We’re Catholic and our ceremony is scheduled for 2:30 (with an end time around 3:45). All the new reception sites we looked into will not start a reception before 6pm on a Saturday. That leaves our guests with a 2+ hour gap. Gaps are rude and I can’t expect people to wait around.
Our church does hold Friday weddings with the ceremoy start time around 4pm. This works perfectly with one of the new venues we found. When I ran the idea by my mom (she’s helping me plan), she told me Friday weddings are inconsiderate because people work.
Thoughts on Friday weddings?
Post # 2
JulyBride2015: If I could get the time off work, I would be there. I think that will be the determining factor for many of your guests.
Post # 3
I’d go if I could get time off work but the amount of trouble I’d go to (for the travel and/or to take time off) would depend on just how close we were. My sister? I’d be there come hell or high water. Friend from college I’ve not seen in a few months? Probably wouldn’t happen.
Post # 4
my wedding is on a Friday with the ceremony starting at 530. we thought due to work conflicts we would have more than the usual amount of declined RSVPs but surprisingly almost all the people invited plan on attending and nobody has complained about it being on a Friday.
Post # 5
I likely would depending on travel time.
I know you said gaps are rude (I disagree to a degree), but from a Catholic perspective, they are 100% normal. If a lot of your guests are Catholic, or at least have been to a lot of Catholic weddings, chances are pretty good they’ll understand too.
Post # 6
JulyBride2015: we had a Friday wedding and didn’t get any complaints or have any issues. We sent the STD’s out a year before the wedding so everyone had plenty of time to plan and make arrangements if they wanted to come
Post # 7
I’ve never been to a wedding that has not had a gap, Catholic or not. I’m guessing I’ve attended at least 100. I actually know people who like them so that they can check in to the hotel, gives kids a chance to get some energy out, etc.
Anyways, I think Friday weddings can be nice but they can be a big inconvenience. The wedding party generally would need an extra day off of work. All day Friday consists of wedding prep. Thursday would likely be your rehersal, so most if not all attendants would need at least part of the day off of work for travel and to be there on time. This could be difficult for some, for example as a teacher I only get 3 personal days off. That would be at least half of my yearly time off. I think as far as guests go, people will still come but it makes it more difficult is all.
Post # 8
We actually decided that we specifically wanted a Friday wedding when we got engaged!
The price of our venue is not really much cheaper on a Friday, but we still chose it for a number of reasons. Friday weddings are becoming much more common and acceptable where I’m from, and I have been to quite a few and love the relaxed feeling that Friday weddings have. Yes, people have had to take a day off, but we’ve given them plenty of notice (18 months) and people just seem to be much more relaxed knowing that they’ve got a long weekend ahead of them!
A lot of our guests are coming from overseas, and will be on holidays anyway.
We also want to have a BBQ at home the following day for just our close friends so that we can all let down our hair without having to worry about behaving in from of older relatives attending the wedding.
I have had some snide comments from a work colleague about our Friday wedding, but all of our friends have not had an issue at all, and are looking forward to the event.
Besides, if they really begrudge us that much and don’t want to attend our Friday wedding then we’ll know who our real friends are!
Post # 9
I’m s Friday wedding girl and so far we’ve had no declines from guests.
I think if you give people enough notice that they can check with work etc there no problem. Plus most people love an extra day off to make a long weekend!
Post # 10
JulyBride2015: it would depend on how close i am to the couple and how much i have to travel. my work schedule is somewhat flexible, so i could just work sunday if i miss friday for the wedding. you know your friends and family best, so you can decide whether most of them will probably be able to (and bother to) take work off or not
Post # 11
I prefer a Friday to a Sunday……
Post # 12
JulyBride2015: Weekdays are actually best for me as I work Saturday-Monday, and Saturdays are really difficult to get off; no-one will ever cover my shift, so I have to rely on annual leave, which has to be booked by the end of December for the following April through to the one after that (ie I’ll have to book my April 2015-March 2016 holidays by the end of December this year).
But, most people work Monday-Friday, and so a Friday wedding involves most people booking at least one day off work; possibly two depending on the time of the wedding and they distance they have to travel. So, I’d say whether people attend will probably depend on how much annual leave they get (most people I know get at least 25 days plus bank holidays; the legal minimum in the UK is 20 days plus bank holidays), how close they are to the couple (esp if they get limited annual leave eg if I got 10 days I’d be reluctant to use 1-2 days on a wedding unless I was super close to the couple), and if they can actually book the time off work (eg I know several people who work in schools and would be unable to attend outside the school holidays; I also know lots of people like me who would potentially need 12 months notice to secure the date; etc).
Post # 13
JulyBride2015: I think they’re totally fine! Id definitely go, any excuse for a day off work and a long weekend! 🙂
Post # 14
JulyBride2015: we are getting married on a friday! And so far we’ve had no complaints etc, weekday weddings are becoming quite popular. We look at it that those who want to be there will be! X
Post # 15
Friday weddings are really nothing new. I had mine on a Friday 30 years ago (at 6PM) and had 100% attendance. People who want to be there, will be.