thoughts on a friday wedding???

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

As someone with a fiance/husband who has very limited vacation days (5/year), if I was taking a 4 day weekend I’d want to go somewhere on a mini-vacation, so it’d depend if your wedding is in a city/area with lots to do.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I tried to avoid holiday weekends to begin with, people often want to do something with their SO/family, I don’t feel like it was fair to make them give that up for my wedding. I’m a doctor, I can tell you that taking a day off from work is pretty tricky, if people work part of the day, they’re going to be tired.  I think you’re better off with a different venue.  Ultimately, when I’ve been planning, I just want everybody to have a great time, and to make great memories with the people I care about.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Lmizzle:  To be honest- I can’t take a Friday off work- regardless of the amount of notice. Plus for any guests out of town, they may have to take Thursday and Friday off to travel on Thursday to attend the wedding on Friday. If it was in town, and started late (7 pm) then I would go, but I wouldn’t be as dressed up because I would be coming from work, probably exhausted and not have as much fun (I wouldn’t complain and I would suck it up, but that’s how I would feel). Also, a lot of people can’t make it to a wedding on Memorial Day weekend because they have annual vacations and traditions that weekend.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm

I had a Friday evening wedding. It worked for us because we had a very small guest list, everyone invited lived locally, and it started late enough that no one had to take the day off work to attend. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Neither me or my FI, or a lot of my family members actually, have a traditional M-F schedule. These days I feel like a lot of people don’t. To me, Friday weddings are the same as Saturday weddings. I still have to take a day off. No biggie. If I care enough, I’ll go, if I don’t, I’ll send a gift. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Lmizzle:  We had a Friday evening wedding, due to the fact it was the only “weekend” date available at our venue for like the next two years. So, we took it. Not a single person who RSVP’d no-showed. And, everyone we expected not to come didn’t. It didn’t seem to cause an issue either way. Those who had a hard time getting off of work *and* had to travel, did their traveling Friday morning/afternoon… Arriving with enough time to check into their hotel, get ready and make our 7pm ceremony. Everyone else who worked locally had enough time to get off of work, get ready and get there also. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I would not have a wedding friday or memorial day weekend. People go away for the holiday.. plus not everyone can get a Friday day off of work in time. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Speaking only about a Friday wedding (regardless of which weekend) I find that the party winds down fairly early. Most people have worked a half day, got ready for the wedding and by 10PM everyone was tired and wanted to go home!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had a friday wedding with mostly out of town people and it was great! We gave tons of notice and we had the average decline/accept rate of. 75-80% With only 1 no-show. People said they liked having the whole weekend in front of them after the wedding for travel, and a lot of people stuck around longer. Our party raged until late and lots of people came to the after party. It totally worked for us!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  hollyberry4.
Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ugh. I would not be happy. It’s the last day of the work week and I’m just about as exhausted as it gets on a Friday night..not to mention I wake up at 4:45 am. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Lmizzle: The only weddings I’ve ever declined were on Fridays. I always make the effort to go if invited, even if I’m taking a Friday night redeye for a Saturday wedding before being back at work on Monday morning.

I once tried to make it to a wedding after work. I paid $200 for the cab, which was our only shot of making it there on time, it took an hour and I was still 30 min late so I missed the ceremony. It was stressful and unpleasant. 

Can you have it in Oct.?

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Okay … here are my thoughts and they may differ from the majority. I work Monday, through Friday (I’m a teacher). Nearly EVERY. SINGLE. WEDDING. I have attended in the past year has been on a Friday. It is becoming far far far more commonplace. I can honestly say that, even if it were my neighbors brother’s half cousin getting married… I would still manage to get the day off. I love weddings. And if I like the person getting married, I am more than willing to ‘sacrfice’ a vacation day to attend. Our own wedding is on a Friday (Memorial Day weekend this year!), and I know that no one we have invited has had a problem with it. The point is… people WILL make time for your wedding if they really want to be there.

My main recommendations are to check with family members you really really want there before you set a date, send out Save-The-Dates early, 7 months in advance (at least) AND find hotels in the area that can accomodate the guests. Do some the big leg work for the guests so that they feel less overwhelmed. However, you also have to be prepared for people to say “I’m so sorry…. I really wanted to come but I just couldn’t swing it.” Anytime you have an event on a workday, you need to be prepped for those responses. Best of luck!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

 

Lmizzle:  If it was a 3-day holiday weekend, I’d prefer a Sunday, if possible. My daughter got married, on the Sunday of MDW last year, and 225 of 250 invited guests attended. (Only 1 no-show; a critically ill parent – overseas). I’ve seen Bees who say that having a wedding on a holiday weekend is rude. Well, we had 225 guests who had the time of their lives. Give people plenty of notice and get room blocks. The hotel where we had the reception gave us about 40% off the room rate and booked 52 rooms, for half the guests.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

We had a Friday winter wedding and everyone local made it, unless they were actually really sick or traveling away or something. And almost all of our out of town guests made it too.

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