Post # 1
I wanted to know what everyone’s take is on the idea of a sweetheart table for me and FI at the reception. Would it be nice to allow the wedding party to sit with their significant others at the wedding? Do you think it looks odd when there are only two people at a table at the “head” of the room? Does this idea pose any logistical difficulties? Anyone have any experience with this at your own wedding or as a guest?
Post # 3
We’re doing one, and when I’ve been in weddings with sweetheart tables in the past, it’s been so nice to sit with my date. I don’t see any logistical issues – is there something specific you’re worried about?
Post # 4
We’re doing a sweetheart table, because while I don’t love the idea, I do think it’s the most practical and will be most appreciated by our bridal party. For the most part, I don’t think you’ll spend too much time at your table anyway (saying hi, dancing, etc.).
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
FI and I are just sitting at one of the rounds near the middle of the room– our bridal party is sitting wherever they want.
Post # 6
@sportsgal31: i was just worried that maybe it might be difficult to que the MOH and best man for timing for speaches and such….
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
I think it’s totally personal preference, but FI and I have decided to have a sweetheart table and let the bridal party sit with their families and SOs. Although we also debated having a table with just us and our parents.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
@sweetpeony: As far as the speeches, give them a heads up as to what time they’ll be giving their speech, but your DJ or emcee (or maybe even a DOC if you have one) should be able to rally them up for you!
Post # 9
I’ve seen both and having a table for the wedding party just looks and appears to be awkward and I always see the members of the party sneaking off to squish into their date or family’s table once the reception is in full swing, after speeches and sometimes during the dinner (seeing them carry their plates to other tables).
Depending how grand and seperated the sweetheart table is, that can also appear to be awkward, as I’ve seen.
There’s a happy medium and it’s just a matter of finding it based upon the layout and decor of your space.
And does anyone else imagine a huge table shaped as a heart whenever “sweetheart” tables are spoken about? I sure do!
Post # 10
I don’t like it for me, personally, because I’d feel like everyone was staring at me while I eat and I hate that. Having the whole bridal party at the head table will make me feel less singled out/center of attention.
Post # 11
We had one and loved it. We got to have some peace to sit and EAT. That was my husband’s one request – good food and lots of it! Our venue was really small so it didn’t look weird at all to have 5 round tables and one smaller one. Then our MOH and BM got to sit with their spouses, too, and enjoy the evening.
Two weeks before we went to a wedding that he was in and I had to sit alone with a bunch of the bride’s friends I had never met and it kinda sucked.
Post # 12
@sweetpeony: Our DJ will be rounding the “toasters” up and getting them where they need to go. They’ll probably just give their toasts in front of his table.
Post # 13
We had it and loved it. (There weren’t any logistical details that I can think of!)
Post # 14
We had one and it was great.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
We are planning to do one, just because most of our groomsmen/bridesmaids are married or have SO’s or friends they can sit and have fun with. And I personally want a little time just with FI for dinner 🙂
Post # 16
I’m planning on a sweetheart table for a couple reasons.
1) I hate the idea of separating our wedding party from their significant others.
2) We can’t just join a table because we will end up offending either my side of the family or his because everyone can’t fit at one table. Of course, I’d prefer to be with my family and he’d prefer to be with his…so a sweetheart table means we don’t have to choose.
3) I want to have a place to sit down and enjoy a quiet moment with my FI (well at that point, hubby!) The table doesn’t have to be front and center…but tucked a little back from things…
As someone said, no right or wrong answer here, just personal preference! These are just my reasons for having a sweetheart table! 🙂