Post # 1
If your friend or someone you knew received a very modest engagement ring (very small diamonds, less than $1000) from her FI who makes a six figure salary, would you find it odd? Or would you assume that he picked the ring he thought she would like the most? Or would you not have a second thought about it?!? Just curious!
I’d love to hear your honest opinions!
Post # 2
It depends on the guy and it depends on the ring! I’m getting an heirloom ring with a small stone and I wouldn’t want anything else. The stone and ring are perfect and beautiful and sentimental and right for me. However, if he would have bought something himself he would have gone bigger. So I got a small ring but not a cheap man.
Some men would cheap out.
some women want smaller stones.
Small is less expensive but not necessarily inexpensive. Small ideal cut, D color, IF stones set in platinum could cost much more than significantly larger J color, SI1, good cut stones
Post # 3
I would just assume she didn’t want a big ring. My stone is not a diamond, when people ask, I just explain that diamonds are not my thing and fiance and I are just super frugal. If my friend likes her ring, so do I!
It might be another story if fiance had the ability to get me something expensive, but decided not to with no input from me. I might wonder why he went cheap on the ring, but honestly, I would just be happy to be engaged. There’s tons of reasons why a modest engagement ring would be preferred. He might just personally think big rings are tacky, or maybe he doesn’t want to flaunt the money. Maybe they’ve decided to put the money towards the wedding or a house.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I don’t think I’d think twice about it. I don’t know anything about rings anyway, so for all I know it could be the world’s most expensive small diamond. You know?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t think twice about it. I would assume either he got her something he thought she’d like or they decided together that it was the best choice for them.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t even think twice about it. I don’t usually spend my time assessing other people’s ring sizes and comparing them to their salary.
Post # 7
charlie486: I wouldn’t think much about it.
I go to a lot of networking events of women lawyers and most of the biglaw partners have very modest rings. They’re pulling in somewhere in the mid-six figures.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t think about it for five seconds. Everyone has different tastes and different behind the scenes situations. The FH might have 6 figures in debt to match that 6 figure sallary (attorneys and doctors wrack up a lot of student loans). The girl might prefer smaller stones, or maybe even need a smaller stone for her line of work (I know a lot of nurses who need smaller stones, or can’t wear them to work).
The size of the stone has no signficance on the size of the commitment.
Post # 9
charlie486: Did this happen to you? I think it would depend on the rest of his finances. He may make a decent wage, but has debt up to his ears. It also depends on what the girl wants. Maybe she wants small.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
UNless she was unhappy with it I wouldn’t think anything about it all. I know millionaires that are in actuality broke because all of their money is tied up or they’re in debt up to their eyeballs. You can never assume anything about people’s money which is why it’s impolite to ask about money.
Post # 11
I know a lady who is literallly a millionaire, she is a very good friend of the family. She has a house with 37 doors and 212 windows lo ( Dont ask why I remember thatl. She wears a simple gold band. Jewelry is just not her thing, she would rather travel and put the money into her home and her childrens Ivy leauge educations. It’s all about whats priority.
Now if i had that kind of money whooooo weeee I’d be rocking an insane ring lol 😉
Post # 12
Eh I think I would just need to know the couple. If she isnt the flashy type or if they are both modest I really woildn’t think twice.
Post # 13
charlie486: I’d have to know the couple. You can’t jump to conclusions without knowing at least a little about thier personalities.
We are not “wealthy” by any means, but my ring is smaller and quite modest, and I picked it out.
I wanted it to be something that I felt comfortable wearing all day, all the time. I don’t see the point of spending $5-10-50K on a finger decoration that sits in a box except for “special occasions”. Makes no sense what-so-ever to me.
I have a .5 carat ring, and I love it to pieces and wear it every single day, all the time, along with my wedding band.
Even if we were really wealthy and we had a lot of money to “play with”, it wouldn’t have changed my mind, and I could have gotten something bigger had I wanted to.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t think twice about it! She’s probably not a big jewelry person. I chose a band with diamonds instead of a traditional engagement ring and I love it – the only thing I don’t like about it is when people make comments that my FI is cheap or poor (which isn’t the case). I have to stop myself from rolling my eyes at them, lol.
Post # 15
sublimestars: oh my goodness! do people actually say that to you?!? that’s horrible!!!!