Thoughts on announcing pregnancy at wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it is pretty cute, and I have zero family members who thought we were virgins before we got married! If you’re a disapproving old fashioned person, is not my job to cater to your views.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If it is the marrying couple I think it is ok, not for someone else do make an announcemnt.  They have all their fam and friends there so why not.  Now a sonogram pic on the table – way out of line.  Way out.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

BTW if you announce the following week, what difference does it make?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Bookmarks:  I think it’s tacky to do this.

I can’t totally put my finger on why, but it just seems.. wrong..?

I would never in a million years do this, & my dad would have probably kicked my ass (metaphorically, of course lol) if I announced that at my wedding. Of course, we are traditional & conservative though.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t care.  I’d probably wait until after the wedding myself but I don’t really care what anyone else does.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t mind it. In fact it makes me all weepy and gooey. I think this is my biological clock trying to tell me something…if only it could pipe down for 4 more years! 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Bookmarks:  Even though I know a lot of couples do the deed and live together before marriage, being pregnant before the wedding is one thing I am pretty traditional about so I would be a bit taken aback by it.  I would get over it quickly because it’s their life not mine but I would definitely wonder why they couldn’t wait, whether it was an accident, or they were getting married because they got knocked up.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Bookmarks:  The ONLY reason I’m not into this whole thing is because I’m a linear thinker and if you start piling too much shit on me, I get grumpy.

ONE THING AT A TIME PEOPLE!!!

Of course I don’t think the couple are virgins and that they’ve never touched each other, and I’m certainly going to be super happy about their new baby…but right now, it’s wedding time…I RSVP’d, dressed up, bought a gift, and now I want to do wedding stuff…not wedding/baby stuff…those two things are not related in my mind on the same level..so don’t make me reconcile that.

Plus…that means we’re going to have to do a baby shower, and congratulatory cigars AND flowers when the baby is born AND go visit AND…AND…AND…

It gets annoying.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d probably find it a little odd, because it’s like they’re taking the spotlight away from their wedding day and putting it on this baby. I mean I’m sure they excited about the baby, but you could have your cake and eat it too by enjoying the wedding and then announcing a little later and enjoying that as well!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Personally, I wouldn’t … and I do think it is inappropriate to do so.

1- Because NOTHING or NO ONE should take away from the focus of the day… a couple getting married.  (Sorry, not only their own bambino)

2- Because when you Host an Event, you are meant to do all that you can to make your Guests feel comfortable… obviously their NEWS didn’t do that for the Aunt & Uncle (so inconsiderate)

3- As someone else said… there are like a ton of “other days” afterwards to tell folks, it doesn’t matter which other one they choose in the big scheme of things.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m with you on this one for several reasons but one is that I like celebrating one thing at a time. I mean, announcing you are having a baby sort of takes part of the excitement away from the wedding part of the day. Another reason is that for many people having children out of wedlock is considered a major taboo. You probably are going to have at least some people at your wedding who believe this (like your grandparents or old family friends). As a good host you should ensure that your wedding is a happy occasion & that your guests have a good time. If you know that announcing your pregnancy is going to make some of your guests uncomfortable why would you do that?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think the sonogram picture is over the top, but otherwise I have no problem with it.  If it was the right time and all their friends and family are there, why not?  I prefer this to a Facebook status update.  When I get pregnant there will be nothing about it on Facebook, if you are not close enough for me to tell you in person I don’t care if you know I am pregnant or not.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I would *love* to see this at a wedding!!

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