(Closed) thoughts on big celebration back home after a private destination ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
35 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

This is sort of what we’re doing also.  Private ceremony in Italy, and then a party at my parent’s house when we return.  I don’t think it’s going to be as elaborate, but we are doing a tent in the backyard with decorations, wedding cake, music, dancing, etc.  We sent Save-The-Date Cards for the party a few months ago using paperlesspost.com and everyone LOVED them, so I think we’re going to do the same with the invites.  I made a few invitations on Vistaprint for our older guests who don’t have internet access, and they say “please join us in a party to celebrate our marriage”, so it’s pretty clear that it’s a party and not a wedding.  On the website we made, it gives more details and says that we’re having a private ceremony in Italy while on vacation and would love to have everyone join us for a party to celebrate when we return.  I don’t have any bridesmaids or anything, since there’s no wedding, but haven’t really had issues where I would need tons of help planning anyway.  It’s more casual than a reception, so there are a lot of things we’re skipping (DJ- using spotify playlist instead, no escort cards/seating charts, no first dances, no caterers to deal with since my dad is grilling).  I live about 6 hours away from my parents and am arranging most things online and over the phone and it really hasn’t been too bad so far, but I have been making about 20 lists in google docs to keep everything organized!

Post # 5
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’re doing it too !!! Getting married in Greece and then having our reception back home in Sydney a few weeks later. Our invite was quite long, more like a letter and we also created a mywedding site http://www.mywedding.com/kellyandkeane

we’re doing Pre-Drinks with bubble confetti when we walk down the ‘Aisle’ of the botanic gardens to meet our reception guests. We’ll have Lots of family photos, a bridal table, cake cutting ceremony, first dance, father daughter dance, dance floor, restaurant includes DJ/MC and then an after party πŸ™‚

Our venue also has a big projector that we’ll be using to show a slideshow of our photos from overseas, followed by a video of us exchanging our vows.

As far as gifts go – maybe a pair of white flip flops from Australia πŸ™‚ I’m having 2 bridesmaids at our reception and I’m paying for their mani/pedis day of.

Post # 6
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We did this.. Sort of. We got married just the two of us. However, we decided to wait a year and throw a big anniversary party. We’re going to have it catered, decorated, etc. But it’s also going to be a bit less formal. I’m not having bridesmaids since we’re already married and also because I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable asking them to buy a dress and everything when they’re not actually standing with me while I get married. That’s just MHO. 

Haha, honestly though, your comment about cake cutting made me laugh. We are having a big cake but it didn’t even dawn on me that people might want to see us do the cake thing at the party. 

Post # 7
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

we are doing this!! we are getting married in florida with family this weekend and then the next weekend we planned a reception back home at a venue

Post # 8
5 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

We did this too! We eloped to Vegas in November, and since our families had alot of emotion about not being there, we’ve spent the last seven months planning a wedding ceremony where we’ll renew our vows, with a reception afterwards. We both have big families and lots of close friends that will really feel like they’re witnessing our marriage vows for the first time. I would totally elope again, it was incredible, but I’m also really excited for our wedding at the end of the month where we get the more traditional wedding with a dress, flowers, cake, and dancing.

Post # 9
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@skschick:  Totally kosher

And the sky is the limit in regards to how little or much “Wedding-y” stuff you want to incorporate

Hubby and I are going to Elope to a Destination Wedding (Encore Wedding for both of us… so it’ll just be the 2 of us) and then after we return home we plan to have an Informal Reception… Nibbles, Champagne & Cake… some of our friends who are sooo happy for us say we should do it at night and hire a DJ, we haven’t worked thru that idea as of yet, our original idea was an Open House at home, or maybe rent a hall for the afternoon.

As for the Invites, the proper etiquette is…

Mr __ and Mrs ___ ____, request the pleasure of your company at a reception to celebrate their recent wedding, Day – Date – Year – Time – Location – Address – RSVP (if required… RSVP not required if it is an Open House situation)

If you want to incorporate in your marriage abroad aspect, then you can do that with a more informal look to your Invites (graphics etc).  As this is a Party vs a Wedding Ceremony, you have a lot more latitude as to what you can do in that area. 

Post # 10
35 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

@skschick:  No problem! Glad I was able to help!  Good luck with all of your planning πŸ™‚

Post # 12
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We’re planning on doing this too! Ladies who’ve already done it, what kind of dress did you go with?? I’m thinking of something like a tea-length white gown, still bridal-y but not an actual wedding dress. I’d love to hear some ideas! Also did you invite as many people as you might have for a ceremony, or stick to your circle of friends and family? 

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