Post # 1
What are your thoughts on brides that like to announce everything wedding-related on FB, such as sharing photos of their STD and that they’ve picked a venue and are going dress shopping? In particular, I’m referring to brides who definitely are not inviting everyone on their FB list (and not just old HS friends they haven’t spoken to in years).
Personally, we kept ours small so we knew a lot of our FB contacts wouldn’t be invited (even though some fully expected to be). With this in mind, we only posted up a few engagement photos and a small handful of wedding photos. Of course, we changed our relationship status too.
Post # 3
Honestly, I don’t get why people view facebook friendship as a huge deal. Facebook exists as a way to be “friends” with people you don’t actually want to spend time with. Of course, we’re all also friends on there with our close friends and family as well, but does some random girl I went to high school with REALLY think being my FB friend means I’ll invite her to my wedding? Pretty dumb if she does.
I think facebook should be used however the person sees fit, especially when it comes to sharing one’s life. If someone doesn’t like it, unfriending is a really simple process (and I prob won’t miss you one bit).
Post # 4
@MissCalifornia: same. I hide people’s stories if i dont like them but cant unfriend them. Really simple. I really question people’s self esteem if they put everything on facebook all the time. Why are they looking for acknowledgement from people they probably dont talk to in real life?
Post # 5
I think it’s a bad idea, but to each their own. Unless they plan to invite everyone they are friends with. I don’t post anything about the wedding really. Maybe some pictures after the day is over, but I have enough to deal with and all fb does is add drama.
That being said, if someone wanted to post stuff, I’d read it because I’m nosy haha
Post # 6
I can take it or leave it. I don’t really get bothered by what people put on facebook – I just unfriend them or block their posts if I do.
I don’t think it’s rude or anything to post about your wedding just because not everyone’s invited but there’s a difference between normal excited bride postings and the over-posters, but that generally spreads to other areas of those people’s lives too.
Post # 7
You’re talking to one of those brides .
I guess I never really thought sharing happy little milestones in my wedding planning would hurt anyone, especially people who wouldn’t expect an invite.
Edit: I don’t post details, but I’ve posted happy statuses that I found my dress, booked my venue for the date I wanted, and just yesterday, booked my dream photographer.
Post # 8
I don’t really get annoyed, at all. I think its interesting to see what certain FB “friends” of mine are doing in their lives, hence why they are on my friend list. If someone is getting excited because they found the perfect venue, or the perfect dress, let them share it! Who am I to judge or get mad? If I dont like it, I’ll ignore it. Most of my facebook is family so I really enjoyed being able to share some things with them.
But never in a million years do I expect to be invited to anyones wedding that Im friends with on FB. I get it, its not a big deal to me.
Post # 9
I get that I wouldn’t be expected to be invited to a wedding of someone I was friends with 10 years ago but now I never talk to. However, I feel like there’s a grey area where there are people you are friends with and do talk to that would expect to be invited and yet, for whatever reason, are not. That’s why I felt it was always a little uncomfortable posting anything because then these people ended up feeling slighted.
That said, like many of you have mentioned, I do end up hiding a lot of the oversharers!
Post # 10
It dosn’t really bother me. Post away.
Post # 11
I’m guilty. I post 2-3 times a week about whatever wedding stuff has happened. It’s an easy way to keep my future in-laws updated, as well as MOH/BM & other members of the family.
Is it annoying? Probably. But so is posting 10x meme’s a day, or taking pictures of your dog in tshirts & tutus and posting them.
Do I care? Not really. If they are offended by my wedding, they can hide my posts, or delete me.
I would much rather see someone talking about their wedding than about some of the other posts I’ve seen.
Post # 12
Meh….probably on the same level with people that give minute by minute updates on their kids activities throughout the day or their new puppy’s eating habits….I ignore it on my feed and look for something interesting or entertaining…..but I would never say anything bad about it…this is their perspective, and perspective is reality for the individual and just now…these little post card thingies are the COOLEST thing….rock on with that.
Post # 13
I’ve posted some things on fb and people have commented on it that will not be invited. I think that we’re all adults and if they can’t understand that we can only afford so many people at the wedding than that’s their issue, not mine.
Post # 14
I don’t see a need to post about every minute detail…but I wouldn’t care if someone posted status updates about a wedding along with other random things. I would never expect to be invited to someone’s wedding just because I’m a facebook “friend.” Some of those people are just old high school classmates or people I used to work with or ….etc. I don’t understand getting overly annoyed by facebook posts either. If someone is that annoying…you just hide them!
Anyway…I think I’ve only posted 1 or 2 things since being engaged in September (including the engagement itself!). I’m sure I’ll post a few more things like engagement photos, and then probably a little more closer to the actual date. I am inviting my friends that I regularly see so I guess that isn’t an issue for me. If I couldn’t invite them I might decide to post less.
I’ve definitely send some group messages to my bridesmaids though for some opinions on things!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I barely have anything on my facebook- I didn’t post a ring pic or anything. SO I think it’s kinda weird to update everyone you know with every decision you make about an event they may or may not care about.
Post # 16
I don’t post anything wedding related on FB, but the voyeur in me likes it when other people divulge details.