Post # 1
I am not a big partier so today a lightbulb sort of went off in my head when I realized that we could have a brunch wedding. Background info: SO and I both HATE dancing, neither of our families are big dancers, his family drinks but mine really doesn’t, and I don’t drink at all. So I think a brunch wedding would be perfect because a) no pressure to dance or to get drunk but b) guests still have the option to drink (open bar with bloody marys, mimosas, etc.) and I don’t really think anyone is going to miss the dancing. We also want to keep it relatively small (under 100), with just about 20% of our guests being friends our age, and the rest being older/younger family members. After I thought of this I floated the idea to one of my best friends, and she flat out said, “Haha no, that would be so boring.” I was really hurt by this; I guess maybe she thinks it’s boring because her idea of a fun wedding is getting very drunk and dancing her butt off, but that is a miserable time to me so I don’t want to have that type of wedding.
TL;DR What are your thoughts on brunch weddings? Are they boring?
Post # 2
cbj9: I love brunch weddings. Who doesn’t love breakfast foods? I think you have already pinpointed which group may have a negative reaction- the people who want to get drunk on your dime.
Post # 3
I think brunch weddings are a lovely option, especially if you purposely don’t want heavy dancing. You may want to do a photo booth or something though, so there is some sort of entertainment!
Post # 4
I love brunch weddings. I think they’re often super classy, and seriously WHO DOESNT LOVE BRUNCH?! haha. There’s so many amazing food options. And if you wanted alcohol you really can’t go wrong with spanish coffee, mimosas, or bloody marys.
It was rude of your friend to say that, but I’m guessing she just wasn’t thinking. Definitely do what you and your FI want. It’s your wedding, not your “Get wasted on my dime” party. (Those parties are totally awesome if you want to do that, but it sounds like you don’t so totally cool.)
Post # 5
cbj9: I’ve never been to a brunch wedding, but I would LOVE to go to one! Yummy food, yummy drinks, low-key setting. If a brunch wedding is what you want, you should go for it! While your guests’ enjoyment is important, it’s the happiness of the bride and groom that matters most!
Post # 6
cbj9: I have never been to a brunch wedding, but would love to attend one! Also considering it as an option for my own.
I think they are a great idea. It is probably more cost effective as well. It is a nice way to gather everyone together and celebrate. That is sad that your friend made a comment about it being boring, i don’t think it would be! Especially with mimosas! And they usually don’t last as long so your friends and family can still do something in the evening (like go to a bar and get drunk and dance if they really really missed that part of a wedding lol).
Since you there will most likely be no dancing, are you guys planning to cut your first dance as well?
Post # 7
I went to a brunch wedding, and it was a really sweet, simple, and personalized wedding. They had food from their favorite restaurant and wine and beer (I don’t think a full open bar is really necessary for a brunch wedding- wine and beer and maybe some mimosas would be awesome). They had a live jazz band playing the whole time, and people just talked and ate, and enjoyed the ambience music (jazz isn’t something you dance to unless you know how to swing dance). They did do a first dance, and a father daughter dance, but that is it. No one else danced at all. It wasn’t a wedding reception that lasted too long though. I stayed maybe 2 hours and I was one of the last to leave, however that doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy it. There are always people that are going to negative reactions to your wedding no matter what kind of wedding it is so just plan the wedding you want.
Post # 8
I am fine with brunch weddings as long as the food is actually served during brunch. Meaning don’t invite me to your wedding at 11 and when we finally eat it’s 12 noon because that’s lunch.
Post # 9
leisha606: I really only thought of the idea a couple hours ago so I don’t know if we would do a first dance as well as a father/daughter dance. That was something that my friend also mentioned, but I’m sure we could find some way to incorporate those things if we decided to. As @mgbser mentioned, some people still do have those dances at brunch weddings so I’m sure it would be possible.
Post # 10
There are always going to be people who think a wedding HAS to be drinking/dancing. Now, if you were having an evening wedding with no drinking/dancing, yeah I’d personally think it was borning. BUT, brunch weddings are fine. They’re understandably more low-key. That being said, you can’t drag it out. Understand that brunch receptions are MUCH shorter – we’re talking eating, some toasts/cake, and maybe a little mingling. I certainlyl would not expect it to last more than 2.5 hrs.
As a wedding photographer I photograph weddings of all sizes and types. I’ll be honest, the last morning wedding/brunch reception I did was very very boring. However, the crowd was very quiet, they had no alcohol (at all!!), and it really kept dragging on. Everyone arrived and it seemd like it took quite a while for the foodl to be ready. Once everyone ate, it was just people milling around and talking – but you can only talk but so much. Grandpa feel asleep in the corner. It was really a struggle for me to capture “reception” photos because it really just consisted of the whole group sitting around eating (which is the part of a typical reception we photograph the least – people are uncomfortable having their pic taken while eating).
Post # 11
CurlyCue: Brunch can really go anytime between 10 and 2 – inbetween breakfast and lunch, hence the brunch name.
Post # 12
cbj9: I’d love a brunch wedding, personally. I’m having a bruch bridal shower. 🙂 I think it would be fabulous and not boring at all!
Post # 13
If you and your FI like the idea of a brunch wedding, then go for it! It’s YOUR wedding and YOUR money, and as long as you’re treating your guests with hospitality (which you would be), then you’re free to go about this in any way that makes sense to you.
Weddings have been pigeonholed into a certain type of event that HAS to include certain things (i.e., dancing, booze, a big white dress), but a wedding is a celebration, and just like any other kind of celebration, it’s up to YOU to decide exactly how you want to celebrate.
Post # 14
I love brunch weddings because breakfast foods are my favourite! Plus, I still have the evening to relax before work (brunch weddings are usually on Sundays in my experience).
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I have never been to one, but I wish one of my friends would have one because they sound lovely!