Post # 1
So… any thoughts about buying your own loose diamond so you get “the right size” and your SO can put it in the setting? Is this tacky and desperate, or is it a great gesture to your honey to help with the expensive cost of a ring?
Post # 3
I love that your poll has only one option
Post # 4
I would buy my own loose diamond if I wanted another diamond, but not for my engagement ring. The whole idea of an engagement ring is that it’s supposed to be a gift chosen by one’s beloved. I would never take that away from FI. He put about 3 months into choosing the right diamond and 3 months into just the right setting for it. I see all that every time I look at my hand. That’s what makes it so special.
Since I have a diamond in my engagement ring already though, I’m more interested in buying myself another stone, a colored gem. But, first I have to finish FI’s man-gagement ring and his wedding band. My guy has expensive taste so his man-gagement ring isn’t exactly cheap. Why not save up for a nice man-gagement ring for your guy too?
Post # 5
@drA: thanks for letting me know!!! That’s really weird, I’ll fix it, it shouldn’t have done that
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
An important thing to consider is that a lot of companies/jewelers/chains won’t let you bring in a diamond to mount in a setting you buy from them. The diamond is where the majority of their paycheck comes in, so they want you to buy both parts from them.
Post # 7
@aggie2010: that’s great to know! Go figure that they don’t want you to bring in the diamond from an outside source. I wonder how people get their rings reset from heritage diamonds though?
Post # 8
@chic_and_fabulous: They don’t have to be from the same source. As long as it’s a natural gemstone most artisan jewelers will work with you. I just really do not recommend you take the buying of the diamond away from your FI. What’s the point of buying your own engagement diamond?
Post # 8
I see that it isn’t a very popular option from your poll but I bought my own loose diamond. I bought it about a year ago and have been with my SO for 5 years now. My reasoning behind it is that 1) I purchased the diamond with money that my Grandma gave me from my Grandpa’s life insurance when he passed away…he was my favorite person in the entire world. 2) I make more money than my SO by quite a bit and I would never want it to be a worry for him. 3) I am very picky when it comes to things I own. I don’t wear much jewelry and I’m either a hate it or love it type of person. My SO gets so stressed trying to pick presents out for me because he wants everything to be perfect so this won’t just take away money stress but also a lot of the stress on what the ring looks like. Just my two cents! 🙂
Also, with my hate it or love it take on jewelry I know that he would want me to go ring shopping with me when the time comes and I do not want to do that. I want the entire thing to be a surprise and this helps! I say win win all around.
Mine had little to do with the size. What I bought is just under a carat but has great specs. I also know my SO well enough to know that he would HATE the process of figuring out what diamond to buy with everything that goes into the research process.
Post # 9
We shopped together and bought a loose diamond. Way cheaper and better quality!
Post # 10
I don’t see anything wrong with purchasing your own loose stone. It’s no different than providing an heirloom stone from your side of the family to use in your engagement ring. There is no right or wrong way to get engaged. It’s an individual and unique experience that varies from couple to couple based on their situation and what they feel comfortable with.
I think picking out your own loose diamond is fun, especially if you enjoy diamonds as much as I do! I am a specs hunter and chose my own ring/stone/setting. I wouldn’t want the fun part taken away from me!! (Diamond addict here). I work in the jewelry industry and have access to a lot more knowledge on the subject than my FI, so it works for our situation. Good luck!!