Thoughts on dinner vs. full reception??

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
1745 posts
Bumble bee

As a guest I would have a blast! I am incredibly food centric so as long as I was fed good food and got to celebrate in some way I would have a good time.

Post # 3
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

Prettysmile40:  How many guests are you having? We are having a dinner only reception but it’s an immediate-family-only wedding. So I don’t think 20 or so of us will get too bored with dinner and drinks!

However if you’re having like 300 people and just doing dinner that might seem odd to some. I could see it still working but ending earlier than normal.

Post # 4
1099 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Prettysmile40:  I say go for the dinner! We are! We’re doing the ceremony at a hotel, having everyone go to a 1920’s style speakeasy with a show after dinner then possibly back to the hotel for cake and martini’s. We’re probably only going to spend about $5k on it all and its in chicago with about 45 guests. We are having some help from family with a few things but paying for most of it ourselves. Also we aren’t big, loud party people and we thought this was a good alternative plus its so much fun!!! Do what you guys can comfortably afford.

Post # 6
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Prettysmile40: i would say that is fine as long as it isn’t a very large guest list. it could be awkward if there are hundeds of people just sitting around eating 😉   

Post # 7
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I woud much rather have a fabulous dinner and enjoy good wine and conversation with a smaller group, than have a mediocre banquet dinner and an evening of too loud music and dancing.

Post # 8
1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I honestly would have a better time at a dinner than a full reception. Definitely do the dinner if your guestlist isn’t too big. 

Post # 9
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That sounds just fine to me.  I actually wish a few more weddings.  My family and friends group is getting older, and staying for the “dance” part ot the reception just seems a bit silly to me anymore because no one seems to really want to do that part, at least with our group.

Post # 10
1180 posts
Bumble bee

DH and I (both in our early 40s) had our wedding and reception at a local restaurant in one of their private rooms. They are known for fantastic food and all our guests raved. We did have a dj, photobooth, and open bar, but we didn’t have any centerpieces or flowers. We also didn’t have a wedding party. We also had our ceremony in the morning immediately followed by lunch, this saved us money as the minimum we had to meet was much lower. I’m all for fantastic food and good company at an intimate wedding. I think you’ll be fine. 🙂

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  Xu.
Post # 11
732 posts
Busy bee

What would make you happiest? How many guest do you plan on inviting? I think both could be great. Go with your heart, which sounds like the dinner. 

As long as guests know what to expect, no one should be disappointed. 

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