Post # 1
My fiance and I are in the process of buying a condo so are thinking it is best we put our money towards that and have a small dinner instead of a big, expensive reception. Thoughts? I am afraid that our guests will think it is lame though (me niece got married last May and went all out although is regretting it because they are broke) so I am afriad I will regret it. We are also older and having a big, showy affair becomes less important.
Post # 2
As a guest I would have a blast! I am incredibly food centric so as long as I was fed good food and got to celebrate in some way I would have a good time.
Post # 3
Prettysmile40: How many guests are you having? We are having a dinner only reception but it’s an immediate-family-only wedding. So I don’t think 20 or so of us will get too bored with dinner and drinks!
However if you’re having like 300 people and just doing dinner that might seem odd to some. I could see it still working but ending earlier than normal.
Post # 4
Prettysmile40: I say go for the dinner! We are! We’re doing the ceremony at a hotel, having everyone go to a 1920’s style speakeasy with a show after dinner then possibly back to the hotel for cake and martini’s. We’re probably only going to spend about $5k on it all and its in chicago with about 45 guests. We are having some help from family with a few things but paying for most of it ourselves. Also we aren’t big, loud party people and we thought this was a good alternative plus its so much fun!!! Do what you guys can comfortably afford.
Post # 5
SkinnyLatte17: That sounds AWESOME! Can I come? lol
Post # 6
Prettysmile40: i would say that is fine as long as it isn’t a very large guest list. it could be awkward if there are hundeds of people just sitting around eating 😉
Post # 7
I woud much rather have a fabulous dinner and enjoy good wine and conversation with a smaller group, than have a mediocre banquet dinner and an evening of too loud music and dancing.
Post # 8
I honestly would have a better time at a dinner than a full reception. Definitely do the dinner if your guestlist isn’t too big.
Post # 9
That sounds just fine to me. I actually wish a few more weddings. My family and friends group is getting older, and staying for the “dance” part ot the reception just seems a bit silly to me anymore because no one seems to really want to do that part, at least with our group.
Post # 10
DH and I (both in our early 40s) had our wedding and reception at a local restaurant in one of their private rooms. They are known for fantastic food and all our guests raved. We did have a dj, photobooth, and open bar, but we didn’t have any centerpieces or flowers. We also didn’t have a wedding party. We also had our ceremony in the morning immediately followed by lunch, this saved us money as the minimum we had to meet was much lower. I’m all for fantastic food and good company at an intimate wedding. I think you’ll be fine. 🙂
Post # 11
What would make you happiest? How many guest do you plan on inviting? I think both could be great. Go with your heart, which sounds like the dinner.
As long as guests know what to expect, no one should be disappointed.