Post # 1
Ok, so after visiting a restaurant that I love and finding that its like over 75% of my 5k budget, I am rethinking all of this.
I am definitely having my small wedding (20 people) in a catholic church with full dress and all. I’d like to have a really nice photographer take pics during the ceremony, and after for a bit (photography is important to me, so I want a nice one)
THEN -Instead of renting out a room for a “wedding dinner”, I am thinking I should just make a reservation a few weeks before the wedding day at a restuarnat of our choice, just have everyone have a casual meal (people order what they want when we get there, and we eat and talk). At the end of the night, we pay the waiter, and that’s that! We can bring a cake and all to have too, and just have family/friends take pictures at this point.
What do you think? Is this too weird. I am just thinking that this dinner doesn’t have to be so expensive. It can be casual, and this will allow me for a nice photographer and money to get the other things we need and still be within our budget (tux, accessories, invites, flowers, rings).
Let me know…tacky/weird or not!
Post # 3
i think its a great idea, especially for that size of a wedding. it sounds really intimate and nice. the only thing is are you ok without having like dancing, ifrst dances, father/daughter dance? if thats not important to you then i think it sounds like a great plan!
Post # 4
Hi stargal34 – yeah, I threw out the idea of first dances and all that jazz after I figured I wouldn’t be able to have a big reception.
Post # 5
I am planning for the same type of reception. We have a favorite restaurant that has a little party room that holds about 40 people. Our plan if for a small ceremony at our church and just invite a few guests to the restaurant for dinner afterwards. I think it will save alot of money that you can use for the ceremony, your honeymoon, or a house. I am planning on making my own centerpieces and seeing if the restaurant will allow me to decorate the room a little with the centerpieces and a few other things I may find to add a personal touch to it. I think your idea is a very good one.
Post # 6
We are having our reception without dancing at a restaurant as well. To keep costs down, I called around to restaurants to see if they had a room rental minimum. I found one that would only charge $100 for the room rental and then charge us per person for the food. A budget wedding can be done and beautifully!
Post # 7
I think thats a good idea its something i think people would remember (in a good way) : )
Post # 8
When we were searching at our venue, I calculated the price/person with the wedding package at one venue vs. price/person for a meal at the same place. The difference was something like $100/person vs. $50.00/person (and the only real additions to the ‘wedding package’ were room rental and h’or d;oeuvres!). Alas, for the size of the wedding, we could not fit in any of their ‘non-wedding rooms,’ so we went with a wedding package at another location, but if you can do it, I think it would be great! (especially for your size of wedding).
Post # 9
I think that’s awesome. And eating at a local restaurant cuts out a lot of other reception related expenses like linens, chair/table rentals, even centerpieces and other decor. If you were to cut a cake at the restaurant, would you just have it brought in by a family member or just buy the restaurant’s dessert instead?
Twenty people is totally doable on a short term reservation basis.
Post # 10
Sounds great. too bad we have 200 guest. augh. lol
Post # 11
I’m pretty much doing that… you can check out my blog (in my profile) for more info about how we’re doing it. I am pretty jazzed about it actually!
Post # 12
I like it, and had a friend do this. They had a great time. Go for it!
Post # 13
i think that sounds nice for a small wedding.
Post # 14
That sounds great. I wish we could do the same thing.
Post # 15
I would consider reserving well in advance and finding a place with a party room. I imagine most restaurants would have a hard time arranging for 20 some different dinner orders to arrive on your table at the same time. We are having the rehearsal dinner for 30 at a local restaurant – they have a $1k minimum on Saturday nights (which we probably won’t meet), and they arrange the room, print cute menus of several options we pick, etc etc. It’s a nice restaurant, but dinner will be pretty casual and I won’t feel like we’re intruding on other diners.
Post # 16
I think it is a great idea as long as the restaurant isn’t too casual that the dress of your guests will look odd!
I like the uniqueness of it and I think guests will really appreciate being able to chose their own meal!