Post # 1
FI and I are moving to Austin, TX in September from NYC. We got engaged a few weeks ago and are trying to come up with some ideas of where to have a wedding. We’ve lived in NYC for the last 5 years, he’s from outside of NYC, I’m from DC, and most everyone we know lives in the Northeast.
We’re thinking about having a wedding in Austin for several reasons, since we’ll live there and all, but also since it’s an awesome town that most of our friends haven’t been to. So, when absolutely everyone who will be attending the wedding is flying, how do you feel about a Friday wedding? I normally don’t love Friday or Sunday weddings, but this is basically a domestic destination wedding and I love the idea of getting married on Friday and having the weekend to hang with everyone, have more events, etc. That way the people who want to make the trek and take the day off of work will get a bit of a vacation in as well. Thoughts?
PS – A big part of the reason for this idea is because most dates in the next year or so are booked up for Saturdays, especially anything that works with my school schedule. But now that it’s an option, I’m wondering if it’s works…
ETA – If it’s of any importance, we’re in our late twenties and no one invited has children (that are not adults).
Post # 3
I say go for it if that’s what you want. Just prepare yourself that some of your guests may not be able to make it.
Post # 4
If you get married on a Friday, it will mean that most of the people (assuming they work a M-F job) will have to take an additional day off work. Most people will likely be taking Friday off as a travel day, but they may take an additional day off to make the festivities.
I would talk to as many of the essential guests as you can ask them what they were anticipating as far as time off…. when I last went to a DW – it was on a Saturday, but she planned a bachelorette on a Thus, so I flew in on Wed and left on Mon. I made a mini-vacation out of it (your guests may be thinking about doing something similar – so if there is a whole weekend of events, they will likely plan accordingly and a Fri wedding would be more than ok)
Post # 5
With a Saturday wedding people would have the choice to take off additional days and make a vacay out of it. With a Friday wedding they won’t have that option, so more people would likely decline. But if that’s preferable to you, go for it.
Post # 6
If you think your guests will take off an extra day, go for it! That sounds like a really fun wedding weekend/vacation idea!
Post # 7
I’d say go for it, but check with your BMs and the rest of the wedding party to make sure they’d be available on Thursday and even Wednesday if needed – you’ll need at least a day in advance to get ready!
Post # 8
I would only do a Friday wedding in your case if you did it back in the NE area. Otherwise I think a lot of your guests might not be able to make it with having to take so many days off to travel.
Post # 9
I hit the “maybe” button. I’d say go for it if you want, but try not to be upset if friends or family that you always thought would be there can’t make it. I think it’s just a risk with any wedding where many guests will have to fly, and especially for those on non-weekend days :(. It’s also worth considering that most people will have to take Thursday off, too, so they won’t have to worry about a delayed flight making them miss your wedding!
Post # 10
I think given that all of your guest would be from out of town, to have a sat wedding. Just because that way it would encourage more people to come because if you did it that way they could fly in friday night/sat morning and not miss any work.
Post # 11
@oracle: Thanks for the help! Yeah, that’s sort of what I’m picturing. Most of our friends work M-F office jobs, but they also get paid fairly well overall, which often allows some more freedom. I think most people, if they decided to come, would want to make a mini vacation out of it, but yeah, I need to check with people. We have a ton of friends coming to visit this weekend, so it might be a good time to bring it up. I hope to convey that we want honest answers…haha.
Post # 12
We were thinking about a Friday wedding at one point and the planner told us that since most people are already traveling and taking time off, that it has actually worked out better. I think asking a few key people is a good idea. Get some feed back ahead of time never hurt. Ultamitaly it is your wedding so if that iswhat you want go for it but have realistic expectations.
Post # 13
You are basically forcing all of your guests to take a day off from work/school by having a Friday destination wedding. At least when it’s in town, people could either get away with leaving an hour or two early, or a halfday, and not have to pull any kids out of school.
Plus, as PP says, delayed flights would be a nightmare.
Honestly, unless you were a super close friend or close family member. I’d decline for the sheer inconvenience.
ETA: I forgot to point out, you’re already asking guests to pay several hundred dollars for a flight and hotel (my mother flew from Boston to San Antonio a few months ago and the plane ticket was upwards of $600, so assuming Austrin is relatively similarly priced, that’s a huge expense…). Then asking them to take another day off from work… ehhh, I think it’s risky business.
Post # 14
Thanks for all the responses! We’re not having a bridal party, so that’ll make it easier, but I do have my core girls who I will definitely ask for solid advice if we get down to really making a decision about it. We’re fairly even keeled (though I think most people think that about themselves, haha), so we understand that some people just will not be able to make it. But that’s kind of always the case, just a little more so this time.
Post # 15
I also think if it were a destination wedding in a far location where people had to take time off it wouldn’t matter. But given it’s still in the states and few hours plane ride I htink you would still get decent turnout.
Post # 16
@abbie017: I definitely see your points. We’ve normally booked flights to Austin for about $300-350, but even that is a huge expense, so I know it’s a lot. But our families seem to think that having everyone travel to NYC will be even more expensive since hotel rooms can be upwards of $400 per night.
I should probably mention we’re in our late 20s and none of the guests have children (well, non-adult children). But again, still a lot of considerations for others to make for our one day, I definitely get that.
My bff had a DW in the Dominican Republic recently, they have a similar group of friends/family, and over 130 people showed up, but that might have just been a miracle fluke for them…