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I have known people to have a baby in there mid to late 30's and she had no issues. Im 37 and ponder on the same thing sometime, but people do it all the time.
Two women at my office got pregnant last year - one was 37 when her son was born the other turned 40 a few days after her daughter was born. Both of them conceived naturally and had trouble free pregnancies. Also my mother had a surprise pregnancy at 39, so yes it is VERY possible!
I hope that I will be one of those that will be able to conceive in my early 40s as I hope to have one more baby in my future! :)
My mom and my grandmother gave birth to me and my uncle four months apart. My mom was 22 at the time, grandma was 41. I'm sure there was no external help involved.
I don't know. I'm 35 and pondering this as well. I do know a few women that have gotten pregnant naturally older than me and I also know a few that have had to try IVF (some successful, some not). I would love to have a year or two with my husband as newlyweds but I think we will try to conceive a few months after the wedding because we both really want children. I've been reading a few fertility books and they all say that age is one of the biggest factors in conceiving... my gyno agrees and tells her patients mid-30s to be mindful of this. I would suggest reading Taking Care of Your Fertility and lead a healthy lifestyle to prolong your options.
A really dear friend of mine just got pregnant at 36 naturally. I have to admit they are having a hard time balancing the lives they have become used to and how it is going to have to change. My suggestion is, after having many many indepth conversations with this couple lately, make sure you have very thorough discussions on the matter. Including the expectations of each other while pregnant and the realities on how life changes with children. I wish our friends had. It has been causing a lot of tensions between them as they never had those discussions.
A friend of mine had her first very healthy baby at 40. She just had her second very healthy baby at 42.
Same, my mom had me when she was 40, and I was a suprise so I guess it was easy.
My sister had her babies when she was in her mid 30s. The only problem she ever told me about was gestational diabetes, which aparently runs in our family.
My sister and her husband just had my gorgeous Godson Logan and she just turned 41. They did do IVF with their own sperm and egg - but not because of her age. She had to have some scrapings a few years ago because of some nodules and lumps (not cancerous) so her scar tissue made it difficult for the sperm to reach the egg. They got pregnant on their first IVF try and she never had ANY symptoms of pregnancy except for the tummy :)
I'm still not wanting any and I'll be 37 in February. My bf is 30 and I worry that he many suddenly want some. But he says he doesn't right now due to his very demanding work and our lifestyle, which he doesn't want to change. I guess we'll jump off that bridge when we come to it! lol
@tksjewelry: I have to second this. Although my sis and her hubby just love and adore their new little guy, they are having difficulty adjusting to their new life and schedule. When you are used to vacationing at the drop of a hat, putting in the extra hours at work to get ahead and basically are used to adult time and money spending - I think its a big shock. They may not have considered the many sacrifices you make to have a little one. They are working through it but it has been difficult, I think.
Omg that is one super adorable cuddly handsome lil' dude! I wanna hug him now!
I love that t shirt btw!
I'm 41, my obgyn says inside 31 and good to go should mommy-dom come knocking again and it's up to my new DH and I if we want to.
I say if all systems are "go" then go for it. I think I am wise, have had some valuable life experiences now and think it's perfectly fine for older moms.
One of my family friends just had her first child at 38. He's a doll! Just be sure to take good care of yourself physically.
Wish you well! Babies and children are such a source of love and joy. I am a far better person having become a mom I can tell you. My precious son has literally changed my life and the last 12 years have been amazing.
My mother had a baby at 42. Yup. 42. All natural. She did end up havng a C-section because the baby was in breech, but other than that- everything went well health-wise. The only thing she complained about was "being older and not having as much energy." She had had her first set of kids in her 20s (my sisters and I) so she ended up being unhappy because she wanted to be going on cruises and things later in life, and not being able to because of the baby. That was her situation though. I know it is possible, and happened right away for her.
I know a few people who have had babies in their late 30s, but I know many more who tried and failed. They either couldn't conceive or went through several miscarriages.
My mom had me when she was 33. She started trying for a second child about a year later and never could - she went through about five miscarriages before she gave up.
Lol - thank you! He is a fat little mush and really a good baby! And yes, I can't wait to spoil him silly like all my other nephews/niece!
My mom got pregnant at 41 and had my sister at 42 - so it can be done!
I think that there's a little bit more of a risk for pregnancies after 35 but that doesn't mean that you would have any trouble.
IVF is pretty intense. I think you would want to try for at least a year before doing it. That being said - schedule a preconception appt with your doctor if you want to know what your options are.
I'm 35 going on 36 and I'm totally worried about it. They say a women over 35 takes an average of 12 to 24 months to get pregnant. Then you have to worry about birth defects because of your old eggs. I really want a child but I don't think I would want to go through the expense of IVF. I can always adopt a kid in need.
My cousin had a baby less than 2 years ago and she is 40. Mom & Baby are both happy and healthy.
My mom had my brother at the ripe old age of 45!! LOL. The only problem that she had was that she wouldn't go into labor so they had to induce her. She had him naturally. My brother and I are 20 yrs apart!! He is healthy and I can't imagine life without him.
I'm 37 and got married a year ago. I'm just now ready to stop my BC and see what happens. I'm scared but we want kids, so it's now or possibly never.
I say anything under 40ish these days is fine. Be active, eat healthy, and get your body in shape though. I am preparing myself for the next year, and I will be 35 in a couple weeks but don't feel a day over 25, lol. My mother had me when she was 21 and my sis when she was 39, both healthy natural births. I'm getting married next spring and plan to work on a baby stat. I also felt nervous for about a year and eventually, I thought stressing about having a baby could also be an adverse affect. So I decided I am going to carry on, be normal, be happy in love, enjoy my wedding and my honeymoon. Hopefully from this happiness and love will come a baby when the baby is meant to be born.
I feel the same way! I'll be 38 and FH will be 35...we do want to have children but I think about..do I want to have a 10 yr old when I'm 50!!! I don't know what I want to do. My FH wants to have children and I told him I would like to get pregnant right after our wedding, and he wants to enjoy our first couple of months married...just for us! I'm torn! Of course we will try, but I don't think I could handle the IVF process.
i think this is definitley something to take up with your doctor since risks vary so much on a person by person basis. my coworker tried to get pregnant after 35 and she couldn't conceive. i knew someone who tried for years and finally did with IV in her late 30s but there were tons of complications and she lost one of the twin babies. but the other one is doing fine now. i have an aunt who got pregnant at 36 and my cousin was born with breathing problems and a heart condition BUTTTT both were curable and he's an athlete now. so i think it really depends and it's not all bad news!!
@bellenga: You and T are such a handsome couple, I would love to see how cute your baby would be! :)
I will be 28 when I get married. I am planning on having children no earlier than 32. I think that will be fine and I am good with that age. I don't want to rush being a mother.
I too have been thinking about this. Ideally if we decide on children I would like to have one by 36 but with that being said I do have friends experiencing difficulty getting pregnant in their 30's. A couple of my friends have had help with getting pregnant and had twins one had triplets. I'm really glad you brought up this subject, because I do feel like the older I get the harder it will be to adjust my lifestyle to a child. We go back and forth on the subject, and my FI is ok with not ever having kids right now but I have a feeling that will change as most of our friends are now pregnant or have newborns.
Does anyone know what the cost of invitro is and other pregnancy assistance they offer?
IVF is very expensive and many health insurance plans don't cover it. I think I've heard about 10,000 or more a pop for an IVF cycle.
I'm hoping to have a baby right after we get married because I'm definitely ready. I'm turning 34 this Sunday. I'm definitely concerned about having a baby after 35 thanks to the magazine and news articles i read all the time. But i would love to have at least 2 children despite me being over 35 during that time. I truly believe if we take good care of our bodies and begin taking the appropiate vitamins and living an active lifestyle, we can hope for the best to achieving a successful pregancy and delivering healthy babies. My mother had me at 20, sister at 25, sister at 30, but had my younger brother at 35 and sister at 37. both children were born healthy and now are becoming the best young adult siblings one could ask for. She even told me she had the most enjoyable and less complicated pregancies during her 30's.
I'm 38, my FI is 42. We're going to try to have a baby after the honeymoon. So many people we know are in their late 30s early 40s having kids. Most of us have gone to college and grad school and started careers and established professional and social lives. There will be adjustments, but we are ready for the change. We might be "old" with a "young" one around, but that is so relative... most of our peer group will be in the same life stage as us. I am so excited for this new chapter in life!!
So glad other people are thinking about this, too, and talking about it! I'm 32, and I mentioned to an acquaintance recently that we think we'll wait a couple of years before we really start to try to get pregnant. And she said something like, "Oh, you're so brave. I had to have mine before 30. I just wasn't going to take the risk of waiting." I'm sure she didn't mean it to be cruel, but I felt like I'd been slapped.
This is such a great thread! I think all our friends and co-workers will have comments about it but hey, if we didn't meet the right guy until our 30's, what are we supposed to do? I imagine we are just going to try once we get married and see what happens. Will be interesting for sure. I'll see y'all over at baby forums in a few years;)
Ditto @julieallen! Wish there were a "Like" button on here. :)
My FI's mother was 40 when she had him and he was a suprise. My aunt also had children in her late 30's because she was busy with law school and then building her practice before she decided that she wanted to be a mother. I think she was about 37 when she had the first and 43 when she had her third. No drugs involved there either.
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I figured this was as good of a place than any to post this questions:
I just got married & will be 37 in less than a month. I'm still on the fence about having kids thing & if we do it will only be one baby. My husband is 32 & I don't want to rush into have a child. I want to enjoy our honeymoon phase & live life without any major changes for a bit. That being said has anyone had a baby or know someone who has gotten pregnant in late 30's or early 40's? I wonder if it would be possible with out hormone's shots & other "external" help?