(Closed) Thoughts on having a baby in late 30’s

posted 7 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have known people to have a baby in there mid to late 30’s and she had no issues.  Im 37 and ponder on the same thing sometime, but people do it all the time. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Two women at my office got pregnant last year – one was 37 when her son was born the other turned 40 a few days after her daughter was born. Both of them conceived naturally and had trouble free pregnancies.  Also my mother had a surprise pregnancy at 39, so yes it is VERY possible! 

I hope that I will be one of those that will be able to conceive in my early 40s as I hope to have one more baby in my future!  🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My mom and my grandmother gave birth to me and my uncle four months apart. My mom was 22 at the time, grandma was 41. I’m sure there was no external help involved.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I don’t know.  I’m 35 and pondering this as well.  I do know a few women that have gotten pregnant naturally older than me and I also know a few that have had to try IVF (some successful, some not).  I would love to have a year or two with my husband as newlyweds but I think we will try to conceive a few months after the wedding because we both really want children.   I’ve been reading a few fertility books and they all say that age is one of the biggest factors in conceiving… my gyno agrees and tells her patients mid-30s to be mindful of this.  I would suggest reading Taking Care of Your Fertility and lead a healthy lifestyle to prolong your options.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

A really dear friend of mine just got pregnant at 36 naturally.  I have to admit they are having a hard time balancing the lives they have become used to and how it is going to have to change.  My suggestion is, after having many many indepth conversations with this couple lately, make sure you have very thorough discussions on the matter.  Including the expectations of each other while pregnant and the realities on how life changes with children.  I wish our friends had.  It has been causing a lot of tensions between them as they never had those discussions.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

A friend of mine had her first very healthy baby at 40. She just had her second very healthy baby at 42. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee

My mom had me at 40.5 … I turned out okay!  😉

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Same, my mom had me when she was 40, and I was a suprise so I guess it was easy.

My sister had her babies when she was in her mid 30s. The only problem she ever told me about was gestational diabetes, which aparently runs in our family.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

My sister and her husband just had my gorgeous Godson Logan and she just turned 41.  They did do IVF with their own sperm and egg – but not because of her age.  She had to have some scrapings a few years ago because of some nodules and lumps (not cancerous) so her scar tissue made it difficult for the sperm to reach the egg.  They got pregnant on their first IVF try and she never had ANY symptoms of pregnancy except for the tummy 🙂

 I’m still not wanting any and I’ll be 37 in February.  My bf is 30 and I worry that he many suddenly want some.  But he says he doesn’t right now due to his very demanding work and our lifestyle, which he doesn’t want to change.  I guess we’ll jump off that bridge when we come to it! lol

@tksjewelry:  I have to second this.  Although my sis and her hubby just love and adore their new little guy, they are having difficulty adjusting to their new life and schedule.  When you are used to vacationing at the drop of a hat, putting in the extra hours at work to get ahead and basically are used to adult time and money spending – I think its a big shock.  They may not have considered the many sacrifices you make to have a little one.  They are working through it but it has been difficult, I think.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Omg that is one super adorable cuddly handsome lil’ dude!  I wanna hug him now!

I love that t shirt btw!

I’m 41, my obgyn says inside 31 and good to go should mommy-dom come knocking again and it’s up to my new DH and I if we want to.

I say if all systems are “go” then go for it.  I think I am wise, have had some valuable life experiences now and think it’s perfectly fine for older moms.

One of my family friends just had her first child at 38.  He’s a doll!  Just be sure to take good care of yourself physically. 

Wish you well!  Babies and children are such a source of love and joy.  I am a far better person having become a mom I can tell you.  My precious son has literally changed my life and the last 12 years have been amazing.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mother had a baby at 42.  Yup.  42.  All natural.  She did end up havng a C-section because the baby was in breech, but other than that- everything went well health-wise.  The only thing she complained about was “being older and not having as much energy.”  She had had her first set of kids in her 20s (my sisters and I) so she ended up being unhappy because she wanted to be going on cruises and things later in life, and not being able to because of the baby.  That was her situation though.  I know it is possible, and happened right away for her.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I know a few people who have had babies in their late 30s, but I know many more who tried and failed.  They either couldn’t conceive or went through several miscarriages.

My mom had me when she was 33.  She started trying for a second child about a year later and never could – she went through about five miscarriages before she gave up.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@bellenga:

Lol – thank you!  He is a fat little mush and really a good baby!  And yes, I can’t wait to spoil him silly like all my other nephews/niece!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My mom got pregnant at 41 and had my sister at 42 – so it can be done!

I think that there’s a little bit more of a risk for pregnancies after 35 but that doesn’t mean that you would have any trouble.

IVF is pretty intense. I think you would want to try for at least a year before doing it. That being said – schedule a preconception appt with your doctor if you want to know what your options are.

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