Post # 1
So, my boyfriend and I have been looking for a ring for a few months. I am so unbelievably picky, it isn’t funny. I have looked at Kay’s and Zales and a few other stores in the mall and have come up empty. I’ve looked at some sites online and have found rings that I have really liked, but they came with a hefty price tag. I know that I would be paying for quality, but the sticker shock was still a bit off putting.
I was looking for something unique–a sapphire, something vintage/antique/one of a kind. One of my previous posts was about The Natural Sapphire Comapny. There was a ring on there that I really loved, but it was quite expensive ($2800+).
My mother came to me yesterday and said that she had been talking to my grandmother about rings. I am incredibly close with my grandmother. She has a ring that my grandfather gave her for their fiftieth wedding anniversary. I love that is has history and it represents their long, loving marriage (they have now been married an additional 17 years). I love the idea of having that ring forever and handing it down to my daughters, etc.
I tried it on and I fell in love, but I am torn because it is just so…It is so completely not what I thought I wanted–the shape of the stone is marquis, which I’ve never liked; it is a bunch of little diamonds instead of a solid stone, which I’ve never liked; it is a thick band, which I’ve never liked. I can’t describe the feeling, though, of trying on the ring. It is nothing that I wanted, yet it is perfect. Does that make sense to anyone else?
I’m posting pictures of the ring. May I have your thoughts and opinions? Feel free to speak freely.
Thank you in advance!
Post # 3
I like it. I like the marquis shape.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
It’d be a little too big for my taste, but what matters is that YOU like it! I love the sentamentality behind it – my e-ring was my great-grandmother’s and grandmother’s, and I love love love wearing that family history.
Post # 5
@birchwood29: If you get butterflie from it, this should definitely be your ring.
If you want something more along the lines of what is currently “in style” to wear that suits your taste more, get a RHR or a flashier stand-in engagement ring for certain events. But, ultimately your e-ring is supposed to feel really special and sentimental to you, & I can’t imagine you would feel the same way about any other ring that you feel about this one.
Post # 6
If you love it and it’s perfect, then I think it’s right. The ring I chose was so not what I had gone looking for. Nothing wrong with that at all. Pre-emptive congratulations!
Post # 7
Playing devils advocate..i got married with an heirloom ring almost 12 yrs ago. It also hadnever really been my style/taste but cost and sentiment played a big roll. It lasted about two years before I really started to wish I had chosen something specifically to suit me. And it took about 10 more to finally decide to “upgrade” and by upgrade I mean I got something completely new that I completely love. I find that I am just as sentimental about my new set if not more so because it suits me so well. I think heirlooms can be great for the sentiment if you truly love them as your own taste. But you are your own person with your own style too and you might, like me, really regret that didn’t play a bigger role in your decision. That being said, you could always go with the heirloom and if it doesn’t work out “upgrade”. I see no shame in it. Just have your own private ceremony with your hubs to put the new rings on your finger. That’s what I did and it feels just as official as 12 yrs ago!
Good luck whatever you decide!
Post # 8
I personally love marquise rings, but I do not like that ring. But what matters is what you like. If its perfect for you, then its perfect.
Post # 9
I think the ring makes your fingers look longer and gives great finger coverage. I too, ended up falling in love with a ring I said I didn’t like until I saw it on my finger and then the love came.
Post # 10
I think its great to have something passed down. I kind of wish there was something like that in my family I could of received! If you dislike the center stones, maybe it would be possible to replace it with one bigger stone? Then you would just be paying for the stone itself and setting it. It would be a way to make it your own. Just an idea!
Post # 11
If you love it, then it’s perfect!
Post # 12
@birchwood29: not my taste. I’m not a fan of it – but all that matters is that you like it
Post # 14
This isn’t really my taste honestly. I feel that way because of all the reasons you listed. But I love the story and sentiment behind it! It’s also a nice money saver. The most important thing is how you feel when you wear it. If you love it then go for it! But don’t settle just because it’s avaliable.
Post # 15
wear it as a right hand ring and choose another ring as your engagment ring.
Post # 16
It is nothing that I wanted, yet it is perfect.
This one sentence makes me think that it’s the right ring for you 🙂