Post # 1
Okay…so I need some help again.
I have a pretty large wedding party. 7 on each side, possibly an extra JBM for me to avoid and hurt feelings…but that’s beside the point.
My FH and I are older, 32 and 31, and every single one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man, except the Junior(s) of course is married. Groomsmen, most married, 1 in a relationship. So my dilema is this.
Originally, I figured since there were so many of them, tabling them together might work out quiet nicely…however, at least one of my BMs fears her husband will be very uncomfortable if not seated with her…he’s not exactly the social type… ;(
I worry that if I go with an old traditional head table, the significant others of our party might be a little putout…and that’s the last thing I want to do…I’d like to be inspiring couple to fall in love again on my wedding day, not resent being at a wedding…
How are you guys dealing with the significant others of your wedding party?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn
The last time I was in a wedding (2008) I was very grateful that the bride and groom had opted for a sweetheart table and had seated the bridal party with their families and/or guests. It made for a much more comfortable situation then the ones where we were seated at a head table away from people we had come with. So I always vote to seat the bridal party with the guests and with the families or friends or what have you. Generally it makes everyone happier and more comfortable throughout the evening in my opinion.
Post # 4
@jayme.l.shepherd: My first wedding I caved to my mother and went with the big long head table of the bridal party. Besides marrying the groom I did that day, it’s my only regret (the rest of the wedding ROCKED!).
It’s very uncomfortable for couples that are split apart and just plain not as much fun for them.
I’ve been a wedding coordinator for years and very rarely do I see the head table anymore.
Depending on how close you are to your party, you could always just have a table with you two and some family or some of the bridal party (many couples do themselves and maybe the best man if he’s a brother and his wife and so on) so you have a full round table but it’s not only the bridal party.
I’ve already started to wonder what we’ll do for our wedding (planning your own wedding is nothing at all like helping other brides with theirs!) this June…
Post # 5
One of the weddings i was in had the head table. Most of the time only the groom and bride were the only one’s sitting at it, as the rest of us were up with our SO’s.
Post # 6
I think bridal party should be able to sit with their SOs. We only have 4 on each side and are planning on having everyone and their dates at a long head table with us.
While that’s not feasible with 7, it’s a great idea if you don’t want to be at a sweetheart table on your own to have your maid of honor (and SO) and best man (and SO) sit with you.
Post # 7
Thanks for the sound advice. We need to connect. Many of my friends and family have been telling me for years, planning events or weddings is what I should be doing. I’d love some tips and/or tricks you might have. Kinda contemplating either using my own wedding, planned totally by yours truly as my portfolio opener, or offering up a contest of sorts for free services since I have no formal client reference.
Post # 8
I’ve been in and to a wedding where I was seperated from my husband b/c there was a head table. We both ended up just eating dinner at the head table and then heading over to join each other. I didn’t love this arrangement, but I understand if the bride and groom want to do it.
For our wedding we had a sweetheart table and then put the wedding party with their SO’s and at the same table with their friends/family.
Post # 9
I prefer sweetheart tables. We did a sweetheart table and had our bridal party sitting with their dates. Not all of our Bridal Party fit at one table so we split them up amongst 3 tables and had them sitting with other wedding guests. We wanted people to be sitting with people they knew or people we knew they would get along with. I also loved our sweetheart table because we were able to actually eat and talk to each other!
Post # 10
We were just discussing the same thing. I’ve been to weddings with both where everyone in the wedding party seemed to have fun, but I worry that our wedding party’s SOs would not know very many other people and would not have a good time.
We’re leaning toward a sweetheart table because we want everyone to have a chance to enjoy the night and not feel like they have too many obligations. I like the idea of having their SOs sit with us at a head table, but realistically we don’t know all of them that well and if we were to have a head table, I think I would like for it to be with people we would most like to celebrate with!
Post # 11
I was in a wedding last year and it wa the first time I had seen the Bridal Party sit amongst the guest and not at front with the bride and groom.
We didn’t like it. It was awkard to be chatting with the guest when we were supposed to be helping the bride. Everytime she needed anything or we wanted to just check if she was ok we had to walk all the way across the dance floor. People couldnt really get pics of the Bridal Party without having to round us up at our tables and then find a spot.
And in my opinion the couple looked odd with all the space around it.
I understand people have their SO but this is the time they signed up to be with the bride and groom, not date their husbands and boyfriends.
For that particular wedding I left FH home because I knew he didnt know a lot of people besides those in the Bridal Party (i didn’t know she was going to sit us with others)
Post # 12
We are having a sweetheart table and two seperate tables for the Wedding Party and their guests. We wanted them to be able to sit together and 16 people at a table with us was a bit much.