Post # 1
So FI and I were originally not going to stay with one another the night before the wedding but then the conversation got started about who he would stay with since I’ll be staying in the suite. The only person he could really stay with would be the best man since everyone else has significant others unless he just got his own room. I really don’t want him staying with the best man because when the 2 of them get together they will stay up all night drinking which on most occasions is fine with me but I rather not have a hung over groom. So I thought that it may be best to just have him stay with me so I’m not worried about who he’s with or what he’s doing and just have him leave early in the morning to go to his parents room. I know tradition says it’s bad luck to see the groom the morning of your wedding but what’s everyones thoughts. Did anyone else stay with their FI the evening before?
Post # 3
@Beachy0404: I think that as long as he is out before you wake up you should be fine. Or you wake up first, whatever fits within your schedule. I don’t think one itty bitty glance in the morning will totally ruin a marriage.
Post # 4
We’re staying together … and our rehearsal will be that morning, so we’re definetely seeing eachother! I say whatever is going to make the two of your happiest and most comfortable!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Well, I stayed with my guy, we had brekky together, we went and did some work at the venue together for a couple hours, and then we separated for a few hours to get ready before the first look. And, spoiler alert, the wedding went off without a hitch and we’re pretty damn happily married!
I really liked being around him on one of the most exciting but nervewracking weekends of my life and would do it all over again. Once the wedding starts, things are CRAZY, so I really valued our time together before that. I also think superstitions are silly, for what it’s worth.
Post # 6
FH and I will be staying together the night before the wedding, and then in the morning we will be getting up and having a nice relaxed breakfast together before going off to get ready individually. We’re not superstitious, so we’re not worried in the slightest about it being “bad luck” seeing each other that morning.
Post # 7
We did. Because screw the tradition, we like our tempur pedic mattress and having our cats snuggle on our feet. 🙂 I got up the next morning and ran away to get my hair done and start getting ready, and his parents came up to help load up everything to take to the venue. We didn’t do anything, mostly we were so tired from the rehearsal dinner we just zonked..XD
Post # 8
Me and FI will be living together it is crazy to get a suite for an extra night just so we are not together the night before when we will live 10 minutes from the venue and will also have first look pictures done. We will get ready seperate but that is it.
Post # 9
DH stayed at his parent’s house (with one of his GMs), and I stayed in the hotel room (alone)!
We both drank a LOT the night before (he went out with all his friends, mine came to visit me in the room), and we had a morning wedding! Luckily, none of us wound up hungover (We both also were smart enough to drink a bunch of water).
But whatever works for you is whatever works for you!
Post # 10
@JulietFoxtrot: +1. I’m so excited to wake up with him the morning of our wedding! 🙂
Post # 11
I did, both times. When we got legally married, I stayed with him. When we had our wedding, I stayed with him. No big deal.
Post # 12
I think the only thing that matters is your comfort level. So as long as you’re cool with spending the night together then do it!
Post # 13
We will be together the night before and all day the day of.
It will help us relax.
Post # 14
Ahh.. at the end of the day it’s your call. But I feel like it’s best to not be with the Groom the night of the wedding. I’m not superstitious, but it’ll make you miss each other more and make the day of so much more special !
Post # 15
What a silly tradition… Seems a little outdated to me. DH and I stayed together, had breakfast together, hung out together most of the day, and were separated for maybe thirty minutes total before our first look. It was no less exciting and amazing… Just less stressful. Do whatever makes you happy.
Post # 16
Thank you everyone! I’m leaning towards us staying together the night before. 🙂