Post # 1
Susan Patton: A Little Valentine’s Day Straight Talk
Here’s a rebuttal in the Huffington Post: Dear Susan Patton, Single Women Don’t Need Your Straight Talk
Personally, I have some issues with this. First of all, I don’t understand at all why she thinks that education/career and dating/marriage/children cannot be done at the same time. Sure the children thing can get a little tricky, but you certainly don’t have to put your life on hold to advance your education and career. Second, I have a PhD and couldn’t give a crap that my husband doesn’t know who Noam Chomsky is. Third, I would never marry a man who didn’t want me to make more money than him. I’ve know a lot of highly educated, successful women, and none of them are so absorbed in their careers that they didn’t get married. They’re either married or single for other reasons. Anyway, I thought this was interesting and figured you ladies would have some opinions as well
Post # 3
As the response says, she loves to make this argument… and she is epically out of touch with reality!
I suppose that the only good suggestion she makes is to keep in touch with people who are intelligent and seemingly great people of your preferred gender whom you meet in college–good for networking AND for potential relationships! But I assume people are doing that anyway because of Facebook
For the record, I’m getting a PhD and I met my DH after college. I definitely did not meet anyone in college I would be interested in as a life partner.
Post # 4
Wow, I guess she can’t write an original article to save her elitist ars. She wrote the same article last year in the Daily Princetonian.
Here’s the NYT response last year:
Post # 5
@tksjewelry: Yeah it’s basically the same thing. I think it’s really strange that someone is paying her to write this crap. How is this advice? No woman in the history of the world focused so much on her career that she forgot to get married. There are other reasons, and this article is not going to change that! I wonder what this lady’s issue is and I really wonder what her credentials are.
Post # 6
@RunnerBride13: This woman again? Le sigh. I am starting to believe that she is a professional troll like that “fat chicks don’t deserve love” douche.
The only decent points she made were the “giving things away for free.” I agree, women shouldn’t be catering to men in the dating stages, but everything else? Don’t agree.
Post # 7
@RunnerBride13: Oh this woman again. She’s nuts.
I went to an elite college, and I’ve been surrounded by smart, high-achieving men in both my professional and social lives ever since. People who go to elite schools tend to end up in elite careers and elite neighborhoods and elite social circles – it’s not like Princeton women graduate and never encounter Ivy League men ever again.
I’m not agreeing with her that finding another Ivy Leaguer is necessary to finding your professional/intellectual equal, but just pointing out that she’s still wrong about needing to find that person in college.
And don’t even get me started about the notion that every man wants to date a woman 10 years his junior. If a 32 year old man wants to get married and settle down, it’s a lot more likely that he’s going to be able to achieve that with a woman his age than with a 22 year old.
Post # 8
Ummm, I’m in my 30’s and just married the love of my life. In fact for me personally I knew who I was and what I wanted in a partner so much better once I hit 30 than I ever did when I was in my 20’s. I went out with a lot of men who were getting divorced in their 30’s after marrying in their 20’s. They all pretty much said the same thing…they were both too young.