- 7 years ago
Yeah that woman needs to be put in her place. It’s your husband’s responsibility to stand up to her. Uninvited guests should NOT just show up at a rehersal dinner.
Of course I’d be pissed in that situation and probably would have taken her to the ladies room and given her a piece of my mind right there.
haha, even better, we called the cops on her, when she did show up, she punched her ex husband and came at me and almost got me…thank god my DH was standing righ there and dealt with her..LOL
What part of what does she think was rude? The not inviting the kids to the wedding? Or making the uninvited guests stand around during the RD?
It sounds like you have a lot more issues with your MIL than just wedding fallout.
Wow!! There is some serious audacity there! I can’t believe they showed up without confirming with you beforehand that it was okay. And if they did get an okay from your MIL, then SHE should have let you know they were coming, especially if she just expected you to pay for them. 10 univited guests is A LOT! It doesn’t sound like you guys were rude to them at all, however. What IS rude is your MIL showing up way late and just expecting you to pay for guests that you didn’t even invite AND who declined to come to your wedding! How odd….
Sorry you had to deal with this!
Oracle- She orginally had no problems with us not inviting the kids, but then after we sent invites out, she suddenly had an issue with the kids not being invited. We told her our budget and if she wanted to pay for other who we had to cut from her list she could ( of course she didn’t), but that was our rule with the entire guest list not to invite kids.
What she claims is rude is that we made her family feel uncomfortable and did not welcome them at the RD. They were standing for about 25 mins whle we figured out what to do and my father even went over to them and introduced himself even though we all were beyond annoyed over the situation, I would hardly call that us making a scene, they were uncomfortable because they knew they were not invited and should not have just showed up like that.
I would be very upset with your in-laws and I would tell your hubby that he needs to do something about it. It stinks that it made a mess of your big day but it could make a mess if a lot more if he does not get them in their place.
I must say that I am impressed that you controlled yourself that night – that shows a lot of character. I don’t know that I would have been able to keep my cool.
My hubby wants nothing to do with her, he is the first to say she always thinks she right, when she has no idea what she is talking about, she has the I’m better than you attidude and I know everything, We really don’t have contact with her, well we don’t respond to her emails and phone calls anymore, she hasn’t gotten it through her head yet that her crazy behavior has pushed her out of our life. However when we do get a long winded email or VM from her, it still irks me and angers me and gets me going but we both have to fight the urge to give in and respond to her.
Some people need to just go into hiding never to be seen again.
Okay, here’s what I think. Please don’t be mad at me.
SO: YES, your inlaws were completely out of line. Your MIL is completely out line. Did they commit a major faux pas? Yes, absolutely. Am I on your side, yes, I am. Your MIL is totally wrong to be mad–in fact, she should be apologizing.
Having said that, NO, you were not rude. Absolutely not. But you asked an etiquette question, so here’s the answer on that: etiquette is all about how you make someone else feel. It’s your code of conduct that’s not contigent upon how others behave. So even though she is wrong, wrong, wrong, and they were wrong, wrong, wrong, at the end of the day, your in-laws shouldn’t have been made to feel awkward. Now, let me be clear: I believe that you dealt with it gracefully, so I’d be curious to know why specifically she/they felt they were treated rudely.
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