Post # 1
I’m in the very early stages of my wedding planning. I’ve been wondering if hiring a wedding planner or a day of coordinator would be a good idea. As of right now I have 6 bridesmaids, and I’m feeling like they are all too busy to help me out with my planning. 2 of them are in school, 2 of them live at least 3 hours away and the other 2 are super busy with their own careers.
Post # 2
I loved having a DOC. I didn’t have her do much of my planning- that was my mom and I mostly. But she was instrumental on the day of. It would have been so much more stressful without her!
Post # 3
If your budget allows for either, definitely get them. But if you have to choose one, go with a DOC. Have you checked if your venue offers similar services? My venues has a DOC for $400 which in my area is a steal
Post # 4
I had a DOC and it was the best thing ever! She took care of absolutely everything for the last two months leading up to the wedding and the day itself. Any time anyone had a question, I just sent them to her and she took care of it all! I was completely unstressed the day of our wedding.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I strongly recommend getting a DOC if you think you need help. Bridesmaids aren’t technically required to do anything but wear the right outfit, show up, and hold your skirt while you pee. If they want to help, that’s a great plus, but don’t make their input a key part of your planning. You will risk damaging those relationships if you heap expectations onto people who are otherwise too busy (see also: dozens and dozens and DOZENS of threads here on the Bee.) A DOC is paid specifically to assist you! what’s not to love?
Post # 6
erika.asher2: Planning a wedding as is hard or as easy as you choose to make it. Some people fret over every decision- others are not intimidated by the multiple decion making required.
It is nice if you have bridesmaids that are close enough and intereted enough to help with planning, but it should by no means be expected.
Even for good decision makers, a DOC can provide the much needed attention to detail so that you or your Mom don’t have to be troubleshooting all day.
Post # 7
erika.asher2: It would also depend on how many guests you are inviting and how many moving parts there are on your wedding day. When I initially set up my budget, I didn’t include a DOC/planner, but we decided to get one because 1) we have 210 guests 2) wedding day will be 15 hours long.
Also, my venue rental includes just the venue, so I’m bringing in everything. Tables/chairs/linen/decor/tableware/bar services/lighting/etc. The DOC will be coordinating with EVERYONE and making sure they show up on time and do what they need to do. Even if your cake is falling over, DOC’ll take care of it 😀
Post # 8
I’m going w a day of coordinator. We are having a very small (less than 50 people) wedding at a private residence. But still, I want to relax and enjoy my day…not point and set up vendors. I want the residence owner to also enjoy the day, and not feel overwhelmed. So definitely a day of person to take charge of all the people and details!
Post # 9
I had a DOC and it was the best decision ever! I looked at it as an investment in me being able to enjoy my wedding. I did all the planning before the wedding. But once I went to get my hair and makeup, I turned everything over to my DOC and didn’t worry about anything the rest of the day. It was so great!
Post # 10
It is absolutely essential. I watched my bff not enjoy her wedding day one bit- Iwas there the whole time as a BM. there was an air of stress, rushing, confusion and at times VERY tense. She was not in a good place because all the vendors were coming to her, little details were overlooked, timeline got behind, things forgotten- little fires have to be put out during every event. It’s so worth it to pay someone else to do it!! Btw this was a 100k black tie wedding- no luxury spared…. Except a planner. The wedding was a sore subject for like a year. She didn’t even want to get her pictures back.
My planner comes rolling in with a timeline, handles correspondence/vendor questions and coordination. She also brings her assistant and her daughter is their “bridal assistant” who is just with the bridal party all day to Indont know, bring champagne and bobby pins. They also have years of experience, and bring a hugely thurough wedding specific “emergency” kit. Im planning the whole wedding and she takes over a few months prior and has just nudged me along the way, gave suggestions, etc