Post # 1
Hey Bees, I’m new here, but I’d love some input and thoughts/ideas regarding vow renewals.
My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now, but we never had a ceremony or reception. At the time we married, we did what suited us. We jumped in our dune buggy, headed to the beach, stopped at the court house, and were married before we spent the rest of the day in the sun.
I never thought I would regret doing it the way we did, but now we have 2 daughters, and I just wish i had something to show for our marraige. I remember how much it meant to me as a girl to look at my parents wedding album, and play with my mothers dress…
We are going to be planning a renewal for our 5th anniversary next august, and I would love some some input on what you all think is appropriate, and what you all would do in my place… Where, how big, how many guest, do we have a destination event?
I’m really looking forward to finally saying our vows with family and close friends near, and especially including our girls!
Thanks for your help ladies!
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Post # 4
My husband and I are renewing our vows for our fifth. It will be a very intimate yet upscale event. We are booking a chapel which comes with packages. The packages include alcohol, cake, food, ceremony, photography and flowers. We will also have invitations and favors. I am wearing a wedding dress so that my mother can see me in one (We eloped the first time.) and my husband is wearing a tux because he wore a suit the first time. I will not have attendants. We are doing this because our elopement was awful and there were a lot of hurt feelings on my side of the family.
While there is etiquette around vow renewals, you are can do whatever makes you happy. It also depends on the opinions of the people you care about the most. Look at your budget and then think of what kind of celebration you want. It will be much easier on your guests if your celebration is local. Feel free to put your girls in your vow renewal.
http://www.idostill.com/ This is an excellent website. Happy planning! PM me if you like.
I have seen some vow renewals on youtube and some couples go ALL OUT. I have seen one vow renewal which resembled a large wedding, complete with horse drawn carriage. That is too lavish for my taste, but every woman is different.
Post # 5
I think the “rules” are no attendants and no registry. Everything else is game
Post # 6
I agree with no attendants and no registry, but also no pre-wedding parties. You don’t need showered and you aren’t a bachelorette.
We’re doing ours on our fourth anniversary (we cancelled our wedding when our daughter had urgent surgery and ended up at the courthouse in jeans). It’ll be a small affair but I’m wearing a wedding dress and we’re definitely going the luxury route. It’ll be a destination wedding for everyone as well.
Post # 7
I am from Australia where I think vow renewals aren’t really done. However I think its a lovely way to continue that loving feeling you have for each other on the wedding day. On reality TV shows I have watched and stuff some peopl do seem to go all out.
I would love to renew my vows with my new hubby after 5 to 10 years and the way I would do it would be a very simple ceremony. The reason for that though is because we got married in a church which was something I wasn’t very keen on, so I would prefer to do it in a way that makes me happy this time around rather than compromising.
So my advice to you is to do whatever you want in terms of a ceremony! When we do renew our vows it definitely won’t be with a priest. I know also that I would probably only invite our immediate family and closest friends and probably just go out for dinner rather than having another reception. This is what suits me and my husband (yes we have already discussed it when we aren’t even married a year lol) I would most likely get a nice new dress (something simple) and it would be just a nice way to reavow our love 🙂
Post # 8
Whoops double post sorry!
Post # 9
For vow renewals you don’t treat them as if its your first time — so no pre-wedding parties, no registries, no “firsts” (first dance, father/dance, etc. are a no). Otherwise you can have your party….
Post # 10
I will be dancing with my husband and my father for pictures, but not announcing the dances as firsts.
Post # 11
We to are going to be renewing our vows. With health issues and such we were unable to have family and most friends at our wedding so we are going to do it all over again. I think you should do whatever makes you happy:) My friends and family all want to do the showers and the bachorlette parties for me to;) They said it was something they missed being able to do with me. If you get a chance to do something again go ahead and enjoy it. Make it the best memories you can.
Post # 12
The only anniveraries where you have a big party that I understand would be a 50th. You’ve been married 5 year? 8 years? 15 years? great, go out to dinner or have a trip as a couple or with your children. Why do I need to be there?
Weddings have gotten out of hand, they are fun and if you can afford it go for it. But if you need/want to get married but can’t afford a big wedding at the same time I do not like the idea of having a “do-over” years later.