Post # 1
Apparently both of my sisters are getting divorced! They’ve been married 11 and 15ish years respectively. Also, I got a call late Sunday night from a good friend, the one I photographed the wedding of just a few months ago, and she’s also getting divorced!
I’ll be getting engaged next month, and I just started thinking about how this will play out with the rest of my family. I am almost afraid to tell them. I am worried about them primarily, but also a little selfishly worried that no one is going to care about my engagement because everything’s falling apart, and none of them will want to be in my wedding party.
I guess I just needed to vent, not in an angry way, but more of a “I’m really worried and am not sure how to handle this” kind of way. It seems like it’s going to be super, super awkward.
Post # 3
Wow, divorced after only a few months?? That sucks!!
The divorce rate is terrifying. I can only say make sure you are getting married for the right reasons, and when things get tough have faith you will both WORK at it unlike a lot of couples.
Post # 4
Actually if you look at it another way, your engagement and upcoming wedding may give the family some much needed ‘happy’ time and something good to focus on..
Post # 5
I agree with @Angkinah: Plus you will have a while before you need to pick your wedding party, giving the open wounds time to heal. Good luck!
Post # 6
@Angkinah: i agree.
@EffieTrinket: wow, that’s a lot of divorces at once and only a couple of months?? ouch. when do you plan on getting married? i’m sure that time will help with the pain of divorce. you don’t have to pick your bridal party immediately out of the gate. wait to see how everyone is dealing with the stress of divorce and acceptance / support of your upcoming nuptuals.
Post # 7
You’ll be the happy bright spot!!!
But I’m sorry this is going on!!!
Post # 8
@Angkinah: +1. your family probably will welcome something to be happy about.
Post # 9
I noticed a lot of relationships ending when Fiance and I first became engaged. It’s crazy, but these are people who have had problems from the beginning.
Post # 10
I love it when people ask me why I’m getting married because we’ll probably end up divorced anyway. Usually those people are divorced. Sorry, but I think you can always tell that your marriage isn’t going to work out, and I don’t have that feeling (and haven’t for the past 4 years).
Post # 11
@vorpalette: Wow! People say that to you? That’s terrible!
I think people give up way to easily. Even though I’m not even engaged yet, I would fight for our relationship. I know a lot of bitter people who are married. It’s sad, really. People jump into and out of marriage too soon.
OP, I’d try not to worry too much about everything. You may get a few bitter words, but know that they really are happy for you.
Post # 12
@EffieTrinket: I agree with other posters that you’re engagement should be the fun part, and if anyone trys to bring you down, just telll us & we’ll give you all the support you need ^-^
Angkinah: I totally agree ^-^
Post # 13
@memo: Yep. Two guys at work (both divorced) have asked me that several times. A third asked me why the rush (after I told him that our engagement was a year and a half) because he’d been engaged to his fiancee for NINE YEARS. Um, because I’d like to get married and not just sit there with a ring on my finger? And have kids soonish? Apparently they also want to have kids and she just turned 40. That’s fantastic, but I’d like to have kids before I turn 30.